Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron…. -I Timothy 4:2, KJV I am convinced the “best” liars are self-deceived cheaters. They believe what they are telling others. This might be the verbal diarrhea of “justifying” why they had to cheat or were entitled to cheat on their spouse. The saddest … Continue reading “The Self-Deceived Cheater”
Cheater-Speak: “I made a mistake. Give me a break!”
“It was a mistake. Come on! Give me a break.” -Cheater Adultery is far more than “a mistake.” The word just makes me cringe internally when I see or hear it used to talk about infidelity. In one sense, the word is accurate. The person did something wrong. A “mistake” highlights that. However, the word … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I made a mistake. Give me a break!””
Adultery Tolerant Churches Are Anti-Biblical
Boasting over your tolerance of sin is inappropriate. -I Corinthians 5:6a, TPT Some churches welcome adulterous spouses. They have no shame about this behavior. In fact, they celebrate how welcoming they are to these folks. It truly is head-scratching to think they see this sort of behavior as a faithful witness to how God wants … Continue reading “Adultery Tolerant Churches Are Anti-Biblical”
Mailbag: What is our role?
Pastor David, I did want to ask your opinion/insight on something else if you don’t mind. I am struggling with what our role is as Christians when it comes to this sexual sin that is permeating our society and destroying marriages. I don’t want to let my pain blind me from the truth of the … Continue reading “Mailbag: What is our role?”
Integrity is valuable.
Choose a good reputation over great riches; being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold. -Proverbs 22:1, NLT When a spouse cheats, they destroy their reputation. They demonstrate a lack of integrity. People learning of this reality is not the problem. It is the bad actions that are! Many cheaters are upset about … Continue reading “Integrity is valuable.”
Some Christians are more upset over divorce than adultery!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV In some Christian circles, the only unpardonable sin in a marriage is filing for divorce. Everything else might be frowned upon but does not receive the vitriol from the pulpit that choosing divorce does. Such priorities are evidence of idolatry as this is not how God treats … Continue reading “Some Christians are more upset over divorce than adultery!”
Yes, some people are THAT bad!
But when people keep on sinning, it shows that they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning. -I John 3:8, NLT One of the hardest parts of dealing with a cheater is believing the dark reality of what their behavior means. I know my experience was growing out of a naivete … Continue reading “Yes, some people are THAT bad!”
Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?
Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the Lord has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin. Nevertheless, because you have shown utter contempt for the word of the Lord by doing this, your child will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NLT Is the cheater asking for forgiveness or simply seeking to avoid … Continue reading “Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?”
PSA: Pastors, we are past marriage enrichment ideas.
Pastors, we–faithful spouses–are past talking about marriage enrichment issues. One of the many annoying things about talking to some Christians about infidelity is how they seem incapable of basic spiritual care triage. The serious nature of the situation does not register with some. They do not understand how working on “communication skills” is not going … Continue reading “PSA: Pastors, we are past marriage enrichment ideas.”
Skeptical of Miracle Christian Cheater Transformation Stories
26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, 27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. -Hebrews 10:26-27, KJV When professing Christians choose to cheat, these verses highlight the serious nature of such … Continue reading “Skeptical of Miracle Christian Cheater Transformation Stories”