Today marks the ten year anniversary of my divorce. Looking back today, I am so grateful for the mercy of divorce. It cleared the way for the best things in my life today–namely, Mrs. DM, Munchkin, and my bird buddies. I have such a rich life today, which is only possible because I am no … Continue reading “A decade of divorce”
Damaged but NOT Damaged Goods!
We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. -2 Corinthians 4:8-9, NIV An amazing thing about Christianity is how God takes us as damaged creatures and transforms us into beautiful vessels for His glory. It isn’t disqualifying to have had a rough experience in … Continue reading “Damaged but NOT Damaged Goods!”
Element of willful, repeated sin
26 If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27 but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NIV The other day I was listening to a podcast, and a point the speakers made about the … Continue reading “Element of willful, repeated sin”
Disturbing dream
I woke up from a nightmare this morning. It was a nightmare involving a divorce from Mrs. DM. In the nightmare, she had filed on me, and did not give me a reason why she did so. It was a terrifying dream for me. Of course, it was all a demonic lie to torment me. … Continue reading “Disturbing dream”
Emotional healing takes great time.
Probably the hardest part of healing from a divorce from a cheater are the lingering emotional wounds from that marriage. You have to find a way to ground yourself in reality. The truth is what will set you free from the cheater’s lies about you and your marriage. In other words, this reality is a … Continue reading “Emotional healing takes great time.”
On treating adultery as side issue re:divorce
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT What astounds me with pastors and Christian marriage counselors who deal with marital infidelity situations is how too many treat cheating as incidental to a marriage ending in … Continue reading “On treating adultery as side issue re:divorce”
Yep, some actually are crazy!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense…. -Proverbs 6:32a, NIV A common word of advice in the dating world is not to date a divorced individual who describes their ex as “crazy.”* Maybe you have heard this one? Such bad-mouthing of an ex is treated as a major red flag. The idea is that … Continue reading “Yep, some actually are crazy!”
I testify to God’s faithfulness.
And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness….” -Exodus 34:6, NIV When I was going through my divorce from my cheater, the future looked extremely bleak on the employment front for me. I was SOOO close to giving up on … Continue reading “I testify to God’s faithfulness.”
Insist on seeing the change!
Prove by the way you live that you have repented of your sins and turned to God. -Matthew 3:8, NLT When dealing with a cheater, the proper biblical approach is NOT to even consider restoring the marriage without obvious repentance. You need to look at the cheater’s actions: Are they the sort of actions that … Continue reading “Insist on seeing the change!”
Season for divorce, too?
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. – Ecclesiastes 3:1, NLT Do we really believe this Bible verse? If we do, I suggest “everything” includes a time for divorce. It may not be the best of all options–just as making war is not better than peace–yet like war, it … Continue reading “Season for divorce, too?”