After the Lord had finished speaking to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite: “I am angry with you and your two friends, for you have not spoken accurately about me….” -Job 42:7a, NLT THAT “friend” said all sort of things to you… …they were inaccurate about God (and you) just like Job’s friends. Sometimes this is … Continue reading “A “friend” like Job’s”
Does God really think that? No. God does NOT.
I am convinced God does NOT think… …you are responsible for your ex-spouse cheating on you and discarding you. God is just. God holds the actor responsible for the actions he or she did, not their victim (see 2 Corinthians 5:10). No matter what your cheater or even a pastor might say, God does not … Continue reading “Does God really think that? No. God does NOT.”
Dying for Clarity Over the Confusion
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV Dealing with infidelity is incredibly confusing. The one who vowed to remain faithful to you until death do you part is behaving in very odd ways. They are supposed to … Continue reading “Dying for Clarity Over the Confusion”
Predictable shock from caught cheaters
I am convinced some cheaters think they will never get caught. They are just that arrogant. To be fair, some have a pretty “good” game of covering their tracks. Some cheaters are so disordered that they are capable of covering their tracks for months and sometimes years! When they DO get caught, they are shocked. … Continue reading “Predictable shock from caught cheaters”
“Listen to yourself, Cheater, for a moment!”
“Do you hear yourself? That is what we call making excuses.” -Wise Pastor to Cheater Labeling matters appropriately does not only help the cheater, but it also helps their victim, the faithful spouse. Proper labels expose the deeds of the dark to light (see Ephesians 5:11). It is astounding to me how so-called Christian pastors … Continue reading ““Listen to yourself, Cheater, for a moment!””
This is spiritual warfare!
Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. -I Peter 5:8, NLT When talking about infidelity, many fail to state an obvious spiritual truth: This is spiritual warfare! The Devil wants to devour Christians. I personally believe he is having great … Continue reading “This is spiritual warfare!”
Sometimes the wife is the cheating abandoner
She [the adulteress] gives no thought to the way of life; her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it. -Proverbs 5:6, NIV Sometimes, the wife decides she would rather live life as a single person. What makes this especially painful for those of us left behind is how shame is compounded to this … Continue reading “Sometimes the wife is the cheating abandoner”
Grateful for another birthday!
Today is my birthday. I am now closer to 40 than I am to 30 years of age. And I am grateful to be able to say that. When I was going through my divorce, death looked like a tempting release. I am grateful for my relationship with Jesus that saw me through that dark … Continue reading “Grateful for another birthday!”
Best days ahead!
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV A lie the Enemy wants you to believe is that your life is over following adultery discovery and divorce. He wants you fearful that all that is left for you is awful following a divorce from a cheater. Some “Christians” … Continue reading “Best days ahead!”
The loss of friends
Yet my friends laugh at me, for I call on God and expect an answer. I am a just and blameless man, yet they laugh at me. -Job 12:4, NLT Years removed, it is still difficult to think of old “friends” and accept the friendship is over for good. These could have been relationships developed … Continue reading “The loss of friends”