I wrote this a few years ago reflecting on a college reunion. Today, I thankfully feel less entwined with those contrasting feelings since I have been back to the city of my alma mater a few more times with Mrs. DM. Obviously, a version of this post ran previously. This weekend happens to … Continue reading “Grief and reunions”
Ripples felt years later
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. -Proverbs 27:6, KJV People who have not lived the experience might not understand the incredible devastation cheating inflicts on faithful spouses. Years can pass and the losses can come up in a micro-second. A song plays. A Facebook post is … Continue reading “Ripples felt years later”
WCF 1646: Supported Divorce!
“Adultery or fornication, committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce, and after the divorce to marry another, as if the offending party were dead.” … Continue reading “WCF 1646: Supported Divorce!”
Poor judgment
Don’t be so stupid as to think you can get away with your adultery. It will destroy your life, and you’ll pay the price for the rest of your days. -Proverbs 6:32, TPT Some cheaters are so drunk on their pride that they believe no one will discover their adulterous sins. This is really sad. … Continue reading “Poor judgment”
God is not blind to the injustices you are suffering!
9 The Lord is a shelter for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. 10 Those who know your name trust in you, for you, O Lord, do not abandon those who search for you. -Psalm 9:9-10, NLT Part of the struggle following infidelity discovery is how the injustice sometimes feels unseen or devalued by outsiders. Faithful spouses are … Continue reading “God is not blind to the injustices you are suffering!”
What just happened?!
What just happened? You thought your spouse would never cheat on you. That was until you were faced with indisputable evidence to the contrary. It is a sucker punch to the gut. I think infidelity discovery is one the most disorienting experiences a human can have. The betrayal is soul deep. Depending on how long … Continue reading “What just happened?!”
God is worthy of our trust!
5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. 6 God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. -Psalm 68:5-6, NIV Our God is someone who cares for the isolated and imprisoned. What I love about the Psalms is how … Continue reading “God is worthy of our trust!”
Cheating damages the whole community!
And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy … Continue reading “Cheating damages the whole community!”
Beware of cheater contempt
As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT When your cheater shows contempt for you, that is a sure sign that they are not the least bit repentant. Now, they may be annoyed to have to deal with the consequences of their actions. Their god-like assessment … Continue reading “Beware of cheater contempt”
That whole “forsaking all others” part!
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. – Genesis 2:24, KJV In my fear of being labelled “controlling,” I had a difficult time recognizing and affirming healthy jealousy and boundaries while my marriage was imploding. I suspect I am not … Continue reading “That whole “forsaking all others” part!”