Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. In my experience, we have to practice choosing to let go over and … Continue reading “A prayer to help in the healing process”
Stopping the sex is NOT enough!
While it is important that the cheating stops, the damage has already been done. Stopping is not the same as repairing. I think this needs to be said. The temptation exists to ignore the damage caused by the cheating as long as “it is over.” Why? The aftermath is not pleasant. It leads to uncomfortable … Continue reading “Stopping the sex is NOT enough!”
Hobby Milestone Yesterday – 605 lbs (274kg) on bench press (equipped)!
He trains my hands for battle; my arms can bend a bow of bronze. -Psalm 18:34, NIV Pastoring is a very non-concrete profession. It is hard sometimes to see progress. One thing I do for my own self-care is pursue my hobby as an amateur powerlifter. This is one hobby where you see your progress … Continue reading “Hobby Milestone Yesterday – 605 lbs (274kg) on bench press (equipped)!”
Never, EVER accept blame!
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. -2 Corinthian 5:10, KJV Never, ever concede to even partial blame when it comes to the cheating of your partner. If … Continue reading “Never, EVER accept blame!”
Not a matter of marrying too young!
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in years … Continue reading “Not a matter of marrying too young!”
A Lesson after looking back…
Friends, pastors, and counselors can be valuable resources; however… ….you will ultimately be the one who has to live with your decision about your marriage and answer for it before God (see 2 Cor 5:10). One of my mistakes in my marriage’s dissolution years ago was allowing far too many people into the inner sanctum … Continue reading “A Lesson after looking back…”
Hundreds of text messages are NOT innocent!
But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God. -John 3:21, NIV Graphic pictures of compromising behavior seems to be almost needed to convince some pastors and Christians that a spouse is violating their … Continue reading “Hundreds of text messages are NOT innocent!”
Watch out if your spouse asks for relationship “rules!”
“This is the covenant I will make with the people of Israel after that time,” declares the LORD. “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people.” -Jeremiah 31:33, NIV If your spouse lacks an internal moral compass, then … Continue reading “Watch out if your spouse asks for relationship “rules!””
Friendly divorce narrative
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. -Matthew 5:32, NIV “Yeah, we weren’t right for each other. But we are still friends,” says a divorcee. Within Christian circles, the friendly divorce seems to … Continue reading “Friendly divorce narrative”
Who is eligible for forgiveness per Jesus? The repentant.
It was also written that this message would be proclaimed in the authority of his name to all the nations, beginning in Jerusalem: ‘There is forgiveness of sins for all who repent.’ -Luke 24:47, NLT Often faithful spouses are pushed to forgive with no reference to the cheater’s repentance. As these words attributed to Jesus by … Continue reading “Who is eligible for forgiveness per Jesus? The repentant.”