“You will drink from the brook, and I have directed the ravens to supply you with food there.” -I Kings 17:4, NIV Do you need someone to take care of you?! This accusation was aimed to shame. It was aimed to suggest the person hearing it was less than an adult. But it missed the … Continue reading “You need someone to take care of you?!”
Mailbag: Why does a spouse cheat on their spouse who is a pastor?
Why would a spouse married to a pastor or chaplain cheat on him (or her)? My answer to this question really is the same answer I would give to someone who asked why their spouse cheated on them. It really is simple. The cheater somewhere accepted an “excusing lie” that permitted them to cheat. A … Continue reading “Mailbag: Why does a spouse cheat on their spouse who is a pastor?”
Is it bitterness or injustice driving this reaction?
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Christians are quick to judge faithful spouses as “bitter” without pausing to consider another–more likely–origin of such strong anger: Injustice. To be angry at injustice is a good and godly response to have. It is not “bitterness” but … Continue reading “Is it bitterness or injustice driving this reaction?”
Mailbag: Common sort of arguments with a cheater?
Divorce Minister, Thank you so much for this blog. This has become a place I go to on a daily basis for answers and general enlightenment. So, I have another question for you. I’m still living my “best life now” with my WW. 😳 The actual infidelity was many years ago. But, since that time … Continue reading “Mailbag: Common sort of arguments with a cheater?”
PSA: Cheating is a choice.
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Choosing to cheat is just that… A CHOICE! It is a sinful choice. And a God-defying choice. A choice that the chooser explicitly said, promised, and vowed … Continue reading “PSA: Cheating is a choice.”
Yes, THAT devious!
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT Yes, THAT devious! I doubt I am the only one who struggled to believe my (now) ex-wife was that devious. It is kind of baked into a healthy marriage that we give each other the benefit of the … Continue reading “Yes, THAT devious!”
Public Service Announcement: A partial truth is still fully a lie!
So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. -Ephesians 4:25, NLT Public Service Announcement: Partial Truths Are Fully Lies! This is a very common tactic of caught cheaters. They will confess to the point where the evidence would make them look ridiculous but … Continue reading “Public Service Announcement: A partial truth is still fully a lie!”
Pride before fall. Cheaters thinking they will never get caught.
But if you fail to keep your word, then you will have sinned against the LORD, and you may be sure that your sin will find you out. -Numbers 32:23, NLT (emphasis mine) What amazes me is how cheaters seem to believe their sins and treachery are beyond discovery by faithful spouses! To be fair, … Continue reading “Pride before fall. Cheaters thinking they will never get caught.”
On preferring “to be imagining things”
Discovering you spouse has been committing adultery is an incredibly traumatic experience. -You want to be wrong–even crazy is preferable to the real traumatic mess this actually is! -You want your world NOT to be upended and obliterated like it is. -In short, you want to wake up from this nightmare. This is grief and … Continue reading “On preferring “to be imagining things””
On an angry God
God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, KJV Do we really want to follow a deity that never gets angry? I do not think so. Such is a deity who is incapable of real love. Such is a deity unmoved by injustice. Such is a deity out … Continue reading “On an angry God”