Prove by the way you live that you have repented of your sins and turned to God. -Matthew 3:8, NLT When dealing with a cheater, the proper biblical approach is NOT to even consider restoring the marriage without obvious repentance. You need to look at the cheater’s actions. Are they the sort of actions that … Continue reading “Show it!”
Season for EVERYTHING? Divorce, included?
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. – Ecclesiastes 3:1, NLT Do we really believe this Bible verse? If we do, I suggest “everything” includes a time for divorce. It may not be the best of all options–just as making war is not better than peace–yet like war, it … Continue reading “Season for EVERYTHING? Divorce, included?”
CHEATERS are the ones treating marriage as disposable!!!
Christian leaders seem to worry that allowing any divorce is to open the flood gates to every divorce. The idea is permitting divorce necessarily means taking a disposable stance towards the covenant of marriage. This is just not so. God does not take marriage lightly, and yet He is described in the Bible as divorcing Israel: And I saw, … Continue reading “CHEATERS are the ones treating marriage as disposable!!!”
Public Service Announcement: NOT your mess!!!
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. -2 Corinthians 5:10, KJV Repenting of sins committed against us makes no sense! Yet this is the standard counsel given to … Continue reading “Public Service Announcement: NOT your mess!!!”
Sometimes distraction is helpful.
When I was heading for my divorce and then recovering from it, I had some wonderful friends who helped distract me from the pain. It was a gift. I hope you have a true friend or two who does that for you as well. Sometimes, we need a break from the grief work. That is … Continue reading “Sometimes distraction is helpful.”
Dear DM, I don’t know how to fix this.
Good afternoon, Obviously you deal with complicated situations so I’m just going to assume you can read between the lines and understand this marriage of mine with the details I give. So. Here we are. We’re married under the worldly courts AND covenant agreements. We have two children 3 mnths and 1 yr and 4 … Continue reading “Dear DM, I don’t know how to fix this.”
Happy Thanksgiving!
Happy Thanksgiving! What are you thankful for this year? Let us take this holiday to think about the gifts God has given us. Thankfulness is a wonderful antidote to negativity and resentment. I am SOOOO thankful for my daughter and Mrs. DM. Plus, I am grateful for the parrots God has entrusted into our care … Continue reading “Happy Thanksgiving!”
Life pressures and the sin of cheating
For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders…. -Mark 7:21, KJV When the Jesus talks about sin here, he is very clear about its origin. Sin proceeds–i.e. originates–from the heart of the sinner. This is basic theology. I am saddened by how so many pastors and Christian counselors … Continue reading “Life pressures and the sin of cheating”
The goal is peace, NOT friendship!
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. -Romans 12:18, NIV Notice what this verse does and does NOT say: 1. It does NOT say–or set the expectation–that we are friends with everyone. 2. It DOES say–i.e. acknowledges–that peace with some people is impossible. These are very important … Continue reading “The goal is peace, NOT friendship!”
Annoying advice about “owning your part” to avoid “bitterness”
The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him. -Ezekiel 18:20, KJV Some Christians think talking about “your … Continue reading “Annoying advice about “owning your part” to avoid “bitterness””