“And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” Mark 10:12, NIV Can a cheater remarry? The simple answer to this question is “Yes.” However, the full answer is more complicated than that. If the question is whether a cheater can remarry another person without sinning, then I think the … Continue reading “Can a cheater remarry?”
“Toxic Shame” as Cheater Self-Pity
“Talking about it just triggers my toxic shame. I can’t face what I did.” -Cheater This is a real conundrum for a faithful spouse. It is hard to heal when you do not have some of the basic facts and your spouse is refusing to help on that number citing “toxic shame.” The “toxic … Continue reading ““Toxic Shame” as Cheater Self-Pity”
64,000+ Visitors to Divorce Minister in 2018!
2018 saw the highest number of individual visitors since the blog’s conception in 2014! The word is getting out there. I am appreciative and humbled by the continued hunger for the material produced on this website. It still amazes me that this blog grew from simply a brain-dump on a simple blog platform to its … Continue reading “64,000+ Visitors to Divorce Minister in 2018!”
Top 5 DM Posts of 2018
Top 5 Most Viewed Posts in 2018: The following posts garnered more than a thousand views each this past year. I have linked to each one with their title (just click on the title). And I have given a brief summary after each. Without further ado… 5. Kept It On to The End This is … Continue reading “Top 5 DM Posts of 2018”
Happy New Year! Big 2018 for DM Website!!
2018 was a big year for Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously! 1. In August, my website won an award from Feedspot: According to their website, this award came as following: “The Best Christian Divorce blogs from thousands of blogs by Christians on divorce on the web using search and social metrics.” 2. I updated the website’s … Continue reading “Happy New Year! Big 2018 for DM Website!!”
Hope for cheaters, yet perhaps not for the marriage
… I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. -Jeremiah 3:8b, NLT Sometimes the marriage is over. Done. I won’t forget working out with a guy during the time of my divorce. He saw his actions as what had doomed his first marriage. This individual acknowledged that sometimes there is just “too much water under … Continue reading “Hope for cheaters, yet perhaps not for the marriage”
Just because you can’t see it now…DON’T GIVE UP HOPE!!!
To all who mourn in Israel… …a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. -ISAIAH 61:3a, b, NLT When my divorce was fresh, I remember feeling great sadness over the thought of losing the opportunity to be a father. That was six years ago. It was a dark time. … Continue reading “Just because you can’t see it now…DON’T GIVE UP HOPE!!!”
Divorce Minister Blog and Book: Divorce-Positive Resources for Evangelicals and Others
But in your great mercy you did not put an end to them or abandon them, for you are a gracious and merciful God. Nehemiah 9:31, NIV What do I mean by a “divorce-positive” resource for evangelicals? -Do I mean divorce is the answer to all marital problems? No. -Do I mean divorce is a … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog and Book: Divorce-Positive Resources for Evangelicals and Others”
“You HAD TO know!”
“You HAD TO know he was cheating on you!” “Come on, man! You HAD TO know she was cheating on you!” Anxious Outsider Outsiders might feel entitled to give their advice unsolicited. They might feel threatened by their vulnerability and trot out these “gems.” My response to such madness: “I don’t know what kind of … Continue reading ““You HAD TO know!””
Forgiveness when they are running away…
Forgive as the Lord forgave you. -Colossians 3:13b, NIV It is hard to give someone a gift when they are running away from you. This is the picture of someone who is unwilling to repent and turn to you for the gift of forgiveness. They are not in a position to receive the gift. … Continue reading “Forgiveness when they are running away…”