Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? -Matthew 6:26, NIV The DM household expanded by two this past week when Mrs. DM brought Kirk and Trip home. They are Green … Continue reading “Furry or (Feathered) Friends”
Marriage Stressors and Infidelity
Money issues do not cause adultery. Lack of “communication” does not cause adultery. Emotional or physical distance does not cause adultery. Even one spouse committing adultery does not cause the other’s adultery. _________ All of these things put tremendous stress on the relationship. In the case of adultery, it is a death blow to what … Continue reading “Marriage Stressors and Infidelity”
Dear DM, Misleading Meme?
Dear DM, Longtime reader here. Thank you for your good work. I recently saw a facebook post by someone that I think is misleading. It says what sinners many key bible figures were, and says God qualifies the called. I thought of you when I read it, and how you clarify God expects remorse and … Continue reading “Dear DM, Misleading Meme?”
Thoughts on HuffPo Article
An article appeared on Huffington Post on December 13th entitled: “A Therapist Explains: Can a Relationship Truly Heal After an Affair? Yes, but expect a different relationship on the other side” (Click on title to be directed to the article). It is a mailbag sort of article where someone writes in about healing from an affair … Continue reading “Thoughts on HuffPo Article”
“Failed Marriage” Usage
Divorce = “Failed Marriage” Is a marriage that ends other than in divorce thereby “successful?” I may be speaking from my own baggage or sensitivities on this. Plenty of divorced individuals seem to have no problem with this word selection. However, I do not like the word choice where “failed marriage” is used interchangeably for … Continue reading ““Failed Marriage” Usage”
Gratitude and getting gifts from God
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever. -Psalm 107:1, NIV When we practice gratitude, we position our hearts to receive gifts from God. A fist raised at God is not a hand ready to receive God’s peace and love. It is a hand that is saying it knows better … Continue reading “Gratitude and getting gifts from God”
Boundary setting NOT punishment dealing
Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. -Galatians 6:7, NIV Setting a boundary is NOT about setting a punishment for the other person. The boundary is there to healthfully preserve you from whatever threatens your well-being. It is not a punishment. Rather, the boundary is a step towards … Continue reading “Boundary setting NOT punishment dealing”
When a cheater-ex gets remarried…
“And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” -Mark 10:12, NLT Unless a biblical exception is met (like your now ex-spouse cheated on you), this holds true in a spiritual sense. The remarriage is adultery in God’s eyes. It ought not to surprise us, though, this does not deter … Continue reading “When a cheater-ex gets remarried…”
Celebratory eBook Sale!
In celebration of an important day, I am reducing my eBook price to $2.99 for a copy of my book. Get one while you can! What am I celebrating? Well, five years ago to this day, a special someone agreed to marry me. Mrs. DM became engaged to me on this day. I would say … Continue reading “Celebratory eBook Sale!”
Six years later…
Today is a negative anniversary. And a positive one retrospectively. Six years ago to this day, I received a message from my divorce lawyer notifying me that my marriage to my first wife was officially and legally ended. I was officially single (and divorced). Each anniversary, the pain has been less and less. … Continue reading “Six years later…”