18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old.
19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.
-Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV
Discovering cheating can launch one into a season of personal growth unlike one has ever experienced before that traumatic event. It did for me.
I do not credit my cheater for this growth. This is hard earned growth on my part necessitated for my own survival during this traumatic season. God may redeem the awful event, but He did not author the sin.
One thing I noticed from growing personally was how I matured in ways that changed me from the person I had been in my marriage. I grew.
The same could NOT be said about my cheater. She still wanted to have the old fights and play the old scripts. I was done with those, yet she was stuck.
For all the talk of cheaters wanting to “find themselves” and be freely themselves, I find it curious how little growth they actually experience.
It shouldn’t surprise us, though. A life built around lies will itself be a lie. The sad thing is how enslaved to lies our cheaters become. Best to leave them to their lies and move forward to a better life without them!
