Dear Divorce Minister, Recently I had a chat with an acquaintance and she gave me some advice that excuses the cheater’s behaviour. I work in social justice and one of the shared values I thought myself and my ex husband had is advocating for women’s health. I was quite excited when he wrote a PhD on … Continue reading “Dear DM, I recently had a conversation…”
Conclusion of investigation into Ravi Zacharias exposes years of sexual misconduct!
The headline from the Christianity Today article says it all about the sad chapter about the investigation into Ravi Zacharias’ behavior: “Ravi Zacharias Hid Hundreds of Pictures of Women, Abuse During Massages, and a Rape Allegation.” The actual report from Miller and Martin, PLLC is particularly disturbing to read (see here). I find the fact this … Continue reading “Conclusion of investigation into Ravi Zacharias exposes years of sexual misconduct!”
It is a funny thing!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Funny how “Christian” folk are swift to condemn divorce but slower and “nuanced” when it comes to condemning adultery. I think such is a sign of immaturity, minimally. It may even be a sign of someone not truly knowing God as God’s heart on these matters could … Continue reading “It is a funny thing!”
Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…
While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage.” This goal is pursued at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, … Continue reading “Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…”
Hi DM, I agree, but I have heard so many Christians tell faithful spouses…
Hi DM, It is true that the cheater almost never repents when discovered, at least most of the time. But I’ve heard so many Christians tell faithful spouses that they should pray for their love ones to repent, that it is their duty to keep the marriage because it is a covenant and they can … Continue reading “Hi DM, I agree, but I have heard so many Christians tell faithful spouses…”
Cheater-Speak: “It wasn’t such a big deal!”
“Come on! It wasn’t a big deal. How you are reacting is exactly why I didn’t tell you.” -Cheater When a cheater responds this way, they are engaging in gas-lighting. Let me explain: They know whatever happened IS a big deal to you. You are clearly upset. So, they say this to cover for themselves … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “It wasn’t such a big deal!””
PSA: If the cheater did not come clean on their own…
“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” -Matthew 10:16, KJV If a cheater did not come clean on their own, the chances of true repentance diminish greatly. I would warn you to be prepared for either anger over discovery or … Continue reading “PSA: If the cheater did not come clean on their own…”
The power of hobbies
I am grateful for hobbies. One of my hobbies these days is chasing after a raw bench of 500 lbs (roughly 227 kilograms). This is slightly stymied by the Covid 19 restrictions in my state not allowing for spotters. However, I am still safely making gains (I think). It is a wonderful thing to have … Continue reading “The power of hobbies”
PSA: Your ex does not get to dictate your beliefs. You get to choose!
“Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not to his own facts.” -Daniel Patrick Moynihan, American Politician Cheaters often forget that faithful spouses do not owe them agreement with their marriage ending narrative. This reality does not stop cheaters from expecting and demanding such agreement, though. Cheaters are perfectly fine pressuring a faithful partner (or ex) … Continue reading “PSA: Your ex does not get to dictate your beliefs. You get to choose!”
Dear DM, What about love keeping no record of wrongs?
Hello DM, I’m glad I found your website. It’s refreshing to hear I have an out when dealing with my wife’s adultery. D-Day is Jan. 23 for me so it’s pretty fresh. I have a question about the 1 Cor. 13:5 passage about not keeping a record of wrongs. Nowadays, the way I … Continue reading “Dear DM, What about love keeping no record of wrongs?”