Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. – Romans 12:15, KJV
Recently, a tragedy struck a community to which I am connected. A young man died in a car accident while going to work. In response, people are sending card(s), flowers, and prayers to his mother plus the work community directly impacted by this tragic loss.
It started me thinking about the tragic loss of a marriage via adulterous betrayal.
Where are the cards, casseroles, flowers, and prayers in support of the grieving faithful spouse? You are more likely to get the proverbial sock full of coal than a hug and words of compassion from others who learn of your very personal loss. Worse than that, the inquisition over what “you did to cause” this betrayal are soon to follow all too often. And if you end up divorced (or choosing divorce), you will soon hear the “God hates divorce” heartless parrots who never bothered using their bird brains in reading the whole chapter around that statement.
Contrast that with the almost immediate and compassionate response we, Christians, give to a family experiencing a death.
A church committee is not formed to decide whether or not we can offer sympathy based on the whether or not the young man made poor choices leading to his death.
Did he text?
Why didn’t his mother teach him safer driving skills?
What did he contribute to his own accident?
Can we offer sympathy to his mother or is that just encouraging her for teaching her son poor driving habits?
Do you see how cold and heartless this line of thinking is?!
We support the grieving.
This ought to be true for people grieving a death of a loved one and of people grieving the death of their marriage killed tragically by their former spouse’s adulterous sin. It is a tragedy that anyone of us could possibly experience.
Let’s be people of kindness and compassion.
Weep with those who weep.
Empathy is a good choice!