Pastors, committing adultery is the real shameful act here!

But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away.

-Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV

The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors.

The real shame is Christians committing adultery!

Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes to marriages ravaged by infidelity. That preaching and counseling needed to happen prior, and it needed to focus on teaching marital fidelity.

If you are sadden, pastors, over marriages ending and families breaking up, look no further than the cheater who decided sin was more important than godliness or their family’s well-being.

Don’t blame the faithful spouse who chose not to tolerate said sin!

I remain amazed at how much energy is spent by evangelical leaders condemning divorce compared to how little is spent on the topic of adultery that gave rise to divorce’s consideration in the first place.

I’m not a big advocate of shaming people in general. That said, it strikes me as odd that the cheater avoids such shaming while his or her victims do not.

Seems backwards to me.

But then again, a lot about how Christian leaders respond to adultery and divorce seems backwards to me!