PSA: Christians, Stop Blaming Adultery Victims For Divorces!


 And I saw that for all the adulteries of faithless Israel, I had sent her away and given her a writ of divorce, yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear; but she went and was a harlot also.

-Jeremiah 3:8, NASB

Is God to be blamed for His divorce of Israel here in Jeremiah 3:8?

Answer: NO, adulterous Israel is to blame.

So then, why do Christians insist and persist on blaming faithful human spouses for divorcing adulterous partners?! 

Adultery seems to include–in the eyes of God–divorce as the proper consequence for such wicked treachery.

Blaming a Christian faithful spouse for divorcing a cheater is like blaming a victim for pressing charges against a perpetrator of a crime: The criminal is not in jail because the victim put him there. He is in jail because he committed a crime!

-Sometimes criminals do not go to jail for their crimes.

-Sometimes the judge is merciful.

-Sometimes the victim does not press charges.

This is the lens Christians ought to view marriages ravaged by adultery that do not go through divorce. The faithful spouse has decided to mercifully not press “the charges” even though the cheater deserved to be divorced. Such a divorce would be fully on the cheater for violating the marriage covenant by committing adultery.