“You never do anything to contribute to this marriage,” says Cheater.
“You always have to do EVERYTHING for you,” says Cheater.
Always or Never Discard
You may be forgiven if you think what your Cheater is saying is about you. They are attributing behavior to you, after all. However, that is not the point of their statements.
They are trying to devalue you for the discard.
That makes it easier for them to move on without you. They are–in a sense–trying to bolster themselves by cutting you down. It is real cruel.
A funny thing about this phenomenon is when the cracks start showing in their “absolutes.”
They claim that you do nothing for their marriage in one breath, and then in another, they talk about how they miss your cooking. Funny how impossible that loss would be if you truly did nothing for the relationship.
Then they might accuse you of always depending on them, and in another breath, they are pleading for your help with something. Sadly, your Cheater is probably so far deceived that they don’t see the incongruence with this.
Again, Cheaters are not concerned with speaking truth. They are the ones who are out of touch with reality as they have given their lives over to lies.
They need to transform you into a loathsome creature beyond remedy. Then you can be justifiably tossed into the reject pile or in the trash. It’s a pretty monstrous or loathsome process they use, but loathsome is as loathsome does.