But the Lord is still there in the city, and he does no wrong.Day by day he hands down justice, and he does not fail. But the wicked know no shame. -Zephaniah 3:5, NLT Shameful behavior deserves to be treated as shameful behavior. I believe in unconditional love. However, I do believe we must reject a life of shameful … Continue reading “Shameless sinners”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Please, don’t bother!
If your cheater refuses to stop cheating AND demonstrate to YOUR satisfaction that the affairs are done for good… …then please do NOT bother trying to reconcile! This is not a workable situation. You do not deserve to remain in an abusive situation as that is what a marriage to an active cheater is. Both … Continue reading “Please, don’t bother!”
Confident lies are disorienting.
“‘Now go and attack Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and do not spare them. But kill both man and woman, infant and nursing child, ox and sheep, camel and donkey.’” …. Then Samuel went to Saul, and Saul said to him, “Blessed are you of the Lord! I have performed the commandment … Continue reading “Confident lies are disorienting.”
Is God good? Really is a question of trustworthiness.
The LORD replied, “I will make all my goodness pass before you, and I will call out my name, Yahweh, before you. For I will show mercy to anyone I choose, and I will show compassion to anyone I choose.” -Exodus 33:19, NLT Have you ever struggled with the question of whether God is good? … Continue reading “Is God good? Really is a question of trustworthiness.”
Newsflash: Liars lie!
“You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” -John 8:44, … Continue reading “Newsflash: Liars lie!”
“You just weren’t right for each other.”
“You just weren’t right for each other.” -Christian (giving a pass to the cheater) I find this sort of Monday morning quarterbacking annoying. It is obvious that a cheater and faithful spouse have different values based on their actions. That alone says that they are not compatible. If we knew our spouse was going to … Continue reading ““You just weren’t right for each other.””
Hell of their own creation
Don’t follow after the wicked ones or be jealous of their wealth.Don’t think for a moment they’re better off than you. They and their short-lived successwill soon shrivel up and quickly fade awaylike grass clippings in the hot sun. -Psalm 37:1-2, TPT Much energy can be wasted in cheater envy. Been there. Done that. It is … Continue reading “Hell of their own creation”
People of Nineveh: Models in true repentance
7 Then the king and his nobles sent this decree throughout the city: “No one, not even the animals from your herds and flocks, may eat or drink anything at all. 8 People and animals alike must wear garments of mourning, and everyone must pray earnestly to God. They must turn from their evil ways and stop … Continue reading “People of Nineveh: Models in true repentance”
Bad enough…for you!
A cheater does not need to be a total monster in order to be bad for you. I suspect most cheaters (if not all) have some “redeeming” qualities about themselves. If they didn’t, we probably never would have married them in the first place. They are mix–like all of us–of good and bad traits. But … Continue reading “Bad enough…for you!”
Honesty of no ring
Some cheaters will remove their wedding ring while cheating. Mine was still cheating and lying with her wedding ring removed. Her anger was almost palpable when I mentioned seeing it gone in my confrontation with her over the Other Man. Denying her sexual infidelity with this man (later confirmed as a lie in writing to … Continue reading “Honesty of no ring”