“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.” -Hebrews 12:5b-6, NIV I totally believe God loves us, His children, with an unconditional love. Our place in God’s heart is not determine … Continue reading “Unconditional Love and Consequences”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Good Christian or Cheater? Not both.
Good Christian or Cheater? You choose. You don’t get both. “Christian” cheaters hate having their infidelity exposed. They despise the inconvenience it causes them. It shatters their image as a “good Christian” for anyone with a modicum of theological sense…as it ought to. The thing is that a cheater must choose between their life of lies … Continue reading “Good Christian or Cheater? Not both.”
Sure, divorce is avoidable…
Sure divorce is avoidable… …just don’t commit adultery or marry someone who cheats. This is obviously easier said than done. Most people do not go into a marriage assuming they will cheat (sadly some are already) or their partner will cheat. The vows to forsake all others are taken seriously by at least one party…usually. Yet … Continue reading “Sure, divorce is avoidable…”
Save your breath
Don’t waste your breath on fools, for they will despise the wisest advice. -Proverbs 23:9, NLT Cheaters are stuck in the fools’ camp when they are stuck in their cheating ways. They only greater fools are the pastors and Christian leaders thinking they can convince the cheater through wise words to halt their folly. … Continue reading “Save your breath”
DM, how might your book help a truly repentant cheater?
How might reading my book help a truly repentant cheater? If they have ears to hear as a truly repentant individual, my book would help them to understand the devastation created by their sin. It would help them see the world through their victim’s eyes. That said, the book is “strong medicine” for the unfaithful … Continue reading “DM, how might your book help a truly repentant cheater?”
Cheater-speak: “I feel God wants me to hold our marriage like Abraham did Isaac.”
2 And he said, “Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.” Genesis 22:2, KJV Cheaters are engaging in self-deception when they decide God is calling … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I feel God wants me to hold our marriage like Abraham did Isaac.””
Another cheating pastor, Donnie Romero, falls from leadership
Pastor Steven Anderson handled this awful situation well, in my opinion (see above video). A pastor, Donnie Romero, who was infamously known for praying that the LGBTQ victims of the Pulse attack in Orlando would die from their wounds (see article here) was found to have been “with prostitutes….” And the world rejoiced over another … Continue reading “Another cheating pastor, Donnie Romero, falls from leadership”
STOP arguing over why you “deserved it!”
A sage trying to work things out with a fool gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. -Proverbs 29:9, THE MESSAGE Arguing Over Why You “Deserved It” This is a wasted argument. It is like talking with someone with your face still bleeding and him/her asking you what you did to deserve having your … Continue reading “STOP arguing over why you “deserved it!””
Choose your beliefs well!
All sort of lies are spoken about faithful spouses. Cheaters are especially “good” at the discard. They speak distorted things about who we are in order to feel better as if they are discarding us like trash. It helps them to think of us that way. You do not have to believe their lies about … Continue reading “Choose your beliefs well!”
Good memories bring the pain
And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light. -2 Corinthians 11:14, KJV While discovering adultery is awful, I think some of the more lasting pain comes from the positive experiences one had while married to a cheater. These memories–whether built on a lie or not–suggest things could have been otherwise. … Continue reading “Good memories bring the pain”