When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”
Category: Trauma of adultery
When One Spouse Loves Money…
For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV When one spouse loves money, watch out! If you have ever done pre-marital counseling or read such materials, you will find they … Continue reading “When One Spouse Loves Money…”
Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing
Then he ordered his disciples not to tell anyone that he was the Messiah. -Matthew 16:20, NIV This verse follows Peter’s confession of Jesus’ true identity. And much wisdom resides in this charge from Jesus. Sometimes keeping an important truth about our identity secret is wise. To use Clinical Pastoral Education language, one of my … Continue reading “Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing”
Sexual Abuse Survivor Takes Abuser To “Church” In Testimony!
In the sentencing hearing for abuser Larry Nasser, Rachel Denhollander–one of his victims when she was a gymnast on Team USA with whom Nasser was the doctor–made a powerful statement. WARNING: It is graphic at parts. Here is a video of her testimony: CNN transcribed this interview in total (link here). In her testimony, she … Continue reading “Sexual Abuse Survivor Takes Abuser To “Church” In Testimony!”
Some Christians have a bigger problem with divorce than adultery!
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NIV “Taking Adultery Seriously!” This is the tagline for this blog. I have found in my experience as well as countless others I have encountered through this blog that Christians struggle less in condemning divorce than … Continue reading “Some Christians have a bigger problem with divorce than adultery!”
Exposing Pagan Thinking On Marriage
“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” -Mark 10:45, NIV When a spouse is constantly calculating whether he or she has a “good deal” with their partner, they have missed the true heart of Christian marriage. … Continue reading “Exposing Pagan Thinking On Marriage”
Testify to Adultery Intolerance!
God says, “If a husband divorces his wife And she goes from him And belongs to another man, Will he still return to her? Will not that land be completely polluted? But you are a harlot with many lovers; Yet you turn to Me,” declares the Lord. -Jeremiah 3:1, NASB Do you notice the assumption behind this statement? The assumption is that the … Continue reading “Testify to Adultery Intolerance!”
Pseudo-Christian Babble: YOUR contribution to the relationship breakup.
“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery–unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT What did YOU contribute to your marriage’s breakdown?! Years ago, I used to believe this was a reasonable question to ask any divorced individual. After all, we are imperfect creatures. We … Continue reading “Pseudo-Christian Babble: YOUR contribution to the relationship breakup.”
Dear Divorce Minister, Why are Christians so bad at responding to adultery?
Dear Divorce Minister, My D-Day (I’ve found you via Chump Lady) was back in 2001, and much time and healing has happened since my husband left me for his AP. I have changed my career (bank manager to priest in the Church of England), I travel (we had no children), and I write fantasy novels … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, Why are Christians so bad at responding to adultery?”
The marriage is adultery ablaze!
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. – I Corinthians 6:18, NLT When talking about adultery, I would like to use a metaphor. Think of a marriage as a house. The adulterous spouse has … Continue reading “The marriage is adultery ablaze!”