There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: … a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. -Ecclesiastes 3:1, 8, NIV Did you know the Bible tells us a time exists to hate? So, this means hate is not … Continue reading “A time to hate?”
Category: Cheating
Disbelief of others
For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. -Luke 8:17, NIV Discovering infidelity is disorienting. What a faithful spouse needs are clear heads. What a faithful spouse does NOT need is someone feeding their disbelief over the cheating. An … Continue reading “Disbelief of others”
Validation. It is a precious gift!
Whether it is validation through evidence or validation from another human being who sees the real injustice and names it as such, validation is a precious gift. I truly believe such validation is necessary for healing from adultery and abandonment. We need to be seen. Our pain needs to matter to someone, which includes ourselves. … Continue reading “Validation. It is a precious gift!”
The sin of silence
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. -Ephesians 5:11, NIV If you know something, say something. It is that simple. We are commanded to expose the “deeds of darkness,” NOT to keep them hidden. Adultery definitely qualifies as such a dark deed. Imagine learning a “friend” knew for … Continue reading “The sin of silence”
You get to CHOOSE your victory narrative!
Instead of shame and dishonor, you will enjoy a double share of honor. -Isaiah 61:7a, NLT Why would you choose to accept the lie-filled narrative from your cheater as your own narrative? Choose your own victory narrative! Remember: You are not the rejected spouse. RATHER, you are the FAITHFUL SPOUSE! You are not the morally … Continue reading “You get to CHOOSE your victory narrative!”
Please, please, get angry (but do not sin)!
“‘Be angry, and do not sin’: do not let the sun go down on your wrath….” -Ephesian 4:26, NKJV God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, KJV Anger can be a gift. We ought to become angry over unrighteousness as God is angry over such things. … Continue reading “Please, please, get angry (but do not sin)!”
Selecting a Pastor: I wish I could say…
Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch. -Matthew 15:14, KJV I wish I could say an older pastor will be more discerning and wiser than a younger pastor on matters of adultery and divorce. But that would be a … Continue reading “Selecting a Pastor: I wish I could say…”
The merciful gift of NOT knowing everything but just enough.
It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret. -Ephesians 5:12, NLT Sometimes not knowing everything is a mercy from God. I am convinced this is true in my case. The conversation I will never forget is the one I had with my (now) ex-wife finally admitting to an adulterous relationship … Continue reading “The merciful gift of NOT knowing everything but just enough.”
From saying lies to becoming a liar.
Outside the city are the dogs–the sorcerers, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idol worshipers, and all who love to live a lie. -Revelation 22:15, NLT Lie to Liar. At some point, I believe God gives cheaters over to their lies. They no longer are people telling lies. They are liars. The lie is what … Continue reading “From saying lies to becoming a liar.”
I hope Ben Zobrist wins his lawsuit against his former pastor!
News of a lawsuit filed by former Cubs baseball star Ben Zobist against his former pastor and counselor hit the “wire” yesterday. The allegations are that Byron Yawn, their former pastor and counselor, used his position to both have sex with Zobist’s wife and exploit Zobist’s celebrity status. Typical in these sad affairs was allegations … Continue reading “I hope Ben Zobrist wins his lawsuit against his former pastor!”