“It is not adultery. We were living apart at the time,” says Cheater. Cheaters trying to avoid responsibility for violating their marriage vows might attempt to use the “geography excuse.” This is the one where they excuse their behavior as “acceptable” since they were living apart from their spouse. They might even have started their … Continue reading “Geography Excuse”
Category: Cheating
Sheep bite, too!
If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. -Galatians 5:15, NIV “Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves.” -Matthew 7:15, NLT Not everyone who comes to you as a “sheep” is one of Jesus’ flock. God knows. And … Continue reading “Sheep bite, too!”
“I miss your cooking.”
“I miss your cooking,” says Cheater who claims you’ve done nothing to contribute to the family ever. Cheaters often seek “justifications” to discard you. Truth is often a casualty of this doomed quest. Sure, they might use something that is partially true to attack you. However, a partial truth is still fully a lie. The … Continue reading ““I miss your cooking.””
Redeeming Pain
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” -I Corinthians 13:11, NIV “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” -Popular Saying God has given us … Continue reading “Redeeming Pain”
Why NOT so complicated
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NLT Save yourself the cost of exploring “why” they cheated. It is simple. They gave into the desires in their own hearts, … Continue reading “Why NOT so complicated”
Safe target
Safe Target I have a theory: I think some Cheaters cheat because they feel safe to do so with their faithful spouse. They never felt safe with their own family. So, they decide to rebel, not as a teenager, but as an adult. Sadly, this “rebellion” is very, VERY costly for the faithful spouse. In … Continue reading “Safe target”
Mere footnote
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Faithful Spouses, we have a choice: Do we keep on allowing the cheater to be the central player in our life story or do we go out and take command of our story forging decisions … Continue reading “Mere footnote”
A hug, not a kiss
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “A hug, not a kiss”
THE sin problem!
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Which is the biggest marital sin that one can commit according to the Bible? Adultery. Cheaters–and sometimes, even well-meaning pastors–sometimes treat adultery as a side problem to marriage troubles. This … Continue reading “THE sin problem!”
More vicious
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes Cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “More vicious”