+Picture of a mole caught in a trap But let man and beast be covered with sackcloth, and cry mightily unto God: yea, let them turn every one from his evil way, and from the violence that is in their hands. -Jonah 3:8, KJV Let’s be honest: Repenting and facing one’s “demons” is hard work! This is … Continue reading “Easier to blame than repent”
Category: Cheating
Reason to be concerned – Spiritual Destination of Cheaters
26 If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27 but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NIV Do I think unrepentant adulterous spouses are going to Hell? I would answer you with a question: … Continue reading “Reason to be concerned – Spiritual Destination of Cheaters”
Cheater engaging in a series of affairs
When you have a cheater engaging in a series of affairs, you have someone who is trying to fix the internal with the external. This is not about the marriage. The affairs reveal a heart that is in need of spiritual and emotional healing. It is an internal issue within the cheater needing addressing. A … Continue reading “Cheater engaging in a series of affairs”
What treatment will you tolerate?
What treatment will you tolerate? Faithful spouses, we have choices. We have agency in these matters. Those choices or options are not very good ones, true. It is a buffet of bad options. But we DO have choices! We do not have to stay in an adulterous and abusive marriage (see Mt 19:9). The option … Continue reading “What treatment will you tolerate?”
3 Things Pastors and Church Leaders Need To Know About Adultery
-3 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ADULTERY- 1. ADULTERY IS SOUL RAPE! The Bible is clear about the principle about how a married couple is no longer two individuals in a spiritual sense but are actually one (see Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, I Corinthians 6:15-18, etc). Following from this oneness principle of marriage, any … Continue reading “3 Things Pastors and Church Leaders Need To Know About Adultery”
Hurts to see the good
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. -Genesis 1:27, KJV Divorcing a cheater would not hurt as much if she was truly pure evil. That is my opinion. I am not saying what she did was anything less than evil. … Continue reading “Hurts to see the good”
Time to shake off their dust!
And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them. -Luke 9:5, KJV Jesus gave us a ministry of reconciliation (see 2 Corinthians 5:18), yet Jesus told His Disciples to move on if this ministry was rejected! Cheaters reject godly reconciliation … Continue reading “Time to shake off their dust!”
Getting “it” from somewhere!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. -Proverbs 6:32, NIV Before I discovered the confirmed adultery partner, I was warned something was likely happening via a family friend. Adults use to regular sexual relations and romantic attentions do not stop “cold turkey.” An outlet is needed. The coldness towards … Continue reading “Getting “it” from somewhere!”
Bitterness or anger over injustice?
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Christians are quick to judge faithful spouses as “bitter” without pausing to consider another–more likely–origin of such strong anger: Injustice. To be angry at injustice is a good and godly response to have. It is not “bitterness” but … Continue reading “Bitterness or anger over injustice?”
Remember who made the mess!
Faithful spouse, remember who made this mess! If you are like many of us, you will be tempted to take on responsibility for fixing the relationship blown up by your partner’s infidelity. Please, don’t! The only way the relationship can be repaired is by the person who blew it up in the first place. Sadly, … Continue reading “Remember who made the mess!”