“I just need some space,” says Cheater. I was listening to some music yesterday as I cut the lawn. The song brought up this line from his girlfriend and had the “hilarious” that his girlfriend didn’t seem to need space from another man. Maybe you got this line or a similar one from your cheater? … Continue reading ““Just needing space” line”
Category: Cheating
Regarding Envy of Cheater Prosperity
There is something else meaningless that occurs on earth: the righteous who get what the wicked deserve, and the wicked who get what the righteous deserve. This too, I say, is meaningless. -Ecclesiastes 8:14, NIV The observation of the wicked prospering while the righteous are punished is not a new one. That is what this … Continue reading “Regarding Envy of Cheater Prosperity”
You will lose some “friends.”
You know that everyone in the province of Asia has deserted me, including Phygelus and Hermogenes. -2 Timothy 1:15, NIV Not all your “friends” before the infidelity discovery will remain your friends afterwards. This is a hard truth to accept. Yet it is a reality best accepted to avoid further heartache. I think this is one of … Continue reading “You will lose some “friends.””
Learning truth
31 To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. 32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” -John 8:31-32, NIV One of the more enduring negative impacts from Cheaters and their allies are the lies they tell us about ourselves. Some have … Continue reading “Learning truth”
“Telling would hurt his reputation.”
“Telling would hurt his reputation,” says Cheater Apologist. No, what has harmed his reputation is behaving in a harmful way. People knowing about it is just revealing his TRUE reputation. Faithful spouses are often too hesitant to speak the ugly truth about their cheater. They worry that they would be wrong to say out loud … Continue reading ““Telling would hurt his reputation.””
My thoughts on dating
When I started dating for the second time, I had a few things I promised myself to do and some things I learned along the way (to Mrs. DM): I did not start dating until after I was officially divorced. My stance is that I needed to see the divorce to go through to be … Continue reading “My thoughts on dating”
Not Blaming: Who does it really benefit?
Not Blaming: Who does it really benefit? I would argue refusing to assign blame in a situation with marital infidelity “benefits” the cheater. They get to be treated as if what happened was either a shared problem or an unfortunate event (both lies, by the way). In other words, they get to avoid taking responsibility … Continue reading “Not Blaming: Who does it really benefit?”
Eyes of faith – Romans 8:28
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. -Romans 8:28, NKJV Sometimes, Christians use this verse to short-circuit the grieving process. They try to silence someone in pain by quoting this at them. That is unhelpful. While I believe the Bible … Continue reading “Eyes of faith – Romans 8:28”
A mere footnoote
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Faithful Spouses, we have a choice: Do we keep on allowing the cheater to be the central player in our life story or do we go out and take command of our story forging decisions … Continue reading “A mere footnoote”
Refuse Responsibility For Emotional Affairs
“If only you had spent more time talking with me, I wouldn’t have cheated on you with him,” says Cheater. Do NOT take responsibility for your cheater’s emotional affair! Your cheater–and others–may try to blame you for being cheated on, but that is just wrong. The cheater could have chosen otherwise. She is 100% responsible … Continue reading “Refuse Responsibility For Emotional Affairs”