“I’m afraid of him,” she–aka cheater–says. This like a blank check that a female cheater can cash in at anytime for sympathy and support from pastors and therapists alike. Most do not bother to ask any followup questions as to why she is claiming such fear. If they do, they might get: “I’m afraid, because he … Continue reading ““I’m afraid of him” Trump Card”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Christian Leaders, All sins are not equal!
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. – Leviticus 20:10, KJV Not all sins in a marriage are acceptable to God as worthy of ending a marriage (e.g. Mt 5:32). Not all … Continue reading “Christian Leaders, All sins are not equal!”
CHOOSE your victory story!
Instead of shame and dishonor, you will enjoy a double share of honor. -Isaiah 61:7a, NLT Why would you choose to accept the lie-filled narrative from your cheater as your own narrative? Choose your own victory narrative! Remember: You are not the rejected spouse. RATHER, you are the FAITHFUL SPOUSE! You are not the morally … Continue reading “CHOOSE your victory story!”
Lie to Liar.
Outside the city are the dogs–the sorcerers, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idol worshipers, and all who love to live a lie. -Revelation 22:15, NLT Lie to Liar. At some point, I believe God gives cheaters over to their lies. They no longer are people telling lies. They are liars. The lie is what … Continue reading “Lie to Liar.”
Cheater Marriage History Revisionism: A brain in blender experience
Telling lies about others is as harmful as hitting them with an ax, wounding them with a sword, or shooting them with a sharp arrow. -Proverbs 25:18, NLT One of the many things that baffles me about the accepted Christian “wisdom” on healing marriages ravaged by adultery is how often pastors and counselors seem to … Continue reading “Cheater Marriage History Revisionism: A brain in blender experience”
Cheater-Speak: “I just want to talk” Trojan Horse
“He wouldn’t talk to me about the REAL issues.” -Cheater “We never talked. She would nag but never discuss things with me.” -Cheater This was a favorite Trojan Horse of my now ex-wife. It was employed with “Christian” counselors, “friends,” and family as our marriage headed to its ultimate demise. Clearly, hiding behind the alleged … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I just want to talk” Trojan Horse”
Dealing with adultery? You are dealing with evil.
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Dealing with adultery? You are dealing with evil.”
Divorce Minister Blog Vision
…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:2, NIV Why create the blog “Divorce Minister?” Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is a ministry born … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Vision”
Nancy Ortberg shares her side re:Bill Hybels allegations
For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. -Luke 8:17, NIV Today, Nancy Ortberg–who worked at Willow Creek Church as staff as well as a Board member of the Willow Creek Association for nine years–dropped a bomb of a … Continue reading “Nancy Ortberg shares her side re:Bill Hybels allegations”
Adultery situations make pastors uncomfortable!
He gives justice to the oppressed and food to the hungry. The Lord frees the prisoners. The Lord opens the eyes of the blind. The Lord lifts up those who are weighed down. The Lord loves the godly. -Psalm 146:7-8, NLT Pastors are not marriage therapists. We are pastors. Our area of training and focus deals with rightly handling Scripture. We provide emotional … Continue reading “Adultery situations make pastors uncomfortable!”