“He wouldn’t talk to me about the REAL issues.” -Cheater “We never talked. She would nag but never discuss things with me.” -Cheater This was a favorite Trojan Horse of my now ex-wife. It was employed with “Christian” counselors, “friends,” and family as our marriage headed to its ultimate demise. Clearly, hiding behind the alleged … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I just want to talk” Trojan Horse”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Dealing with adultery? You are dealing with evil.
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Dealing with adultery? You are dealing with evil.”
Divorce Minister Blog Vision
…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:2, NIV Why create the blog “Divorce Minister?” Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is a ministry born … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Vision”
Nancy Ortberg shares her side re:Bill Hybels allegations
For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. -Luke 8:17, NIV Today, Nancy Ortberg–who worked at Willow Creek Church as staff as well as a Board member of the Willow Creek Association for nine years–dropped a bomb of a … Continue reading “Nancy Ortberg shares her side re:Bill Hybels allegations”
Adultery situations make pastors uncomfortable!
He gives justice to the oppressed and food to the hungry. The Lord frees the prisoners. The Lord opens the eyes of the blind. The Lord lifts up those who are weighed down. The Lord loves the godly. -Psalm 146:7-8, NLT Pastors are not marriage therapists. We are pastors. Our area of training and focus deals with rightly handling Scripture. We provide emotional … Continue reading “Adultery situations make pastors uncomfortable!”
A reminder from Psalm 118
Let those who fear the Lord say: “His love endures forever.” … The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me? -Psalm 118:4, 6, NIV When I consider these words from Psalm 118, I am struck by how the author bases his claim on God’s help with an unwavering faith in … Continue reading “A reminder from Psalm 118”
Rev. Bill Hybels and Willow Creek Church deny sexual impropriety accusations
Rev. Bill Hybels of the megachurch fame is in the news. He is the latest of those touched–whether justly or unjustly–by the #MeToo era. I am not going to go into the blow by blow of the situation. You can read the details of the story from Chicago Tribune (here) and Christianity Today (here). … Continue reading “Rev. Bill Hybels and Willow Creek Church deny sexual impropriety accusations”
Fear God, Not “Man”
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV Fearing what the cheater or other Christians think of you is very real for faithful spouses. This fear is one of the many reasons faithful spouses stay stuck in abusive relationships where the … Continue reading “Fear God, Not “Man””
Take Down That Fear Giant!
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. – 2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV The fear of man brings a snare, But whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe. – Proverbs 29:25, NKJV -Are you anxious? -Do you worry about what crazy thing … Continue reading “Take Down That Fear Giant!”
Remember, the Angel Army Commander has your back!
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV When you go through a situation like discovering an unfaithful spouse, these are deep spiritual waters. It is spiritual warfare. I am convinced. The Enemy likes to use fear to … Continue reading “Remember, the Angel Army Commander has your back!”