“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” -Mark 10:45, NIV When a spouse is constantly calculating whether he or she has a “good deal” with their partner, they have missed the true heart of Christian marriage. … Continue reading “Exposing Pagan Thinking On Marriage”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Taking a Side is Sometimes Appropriate! Highpoint Church Fiasco Illustrates.
“It is okay to be sorry that a sin was committed. And at least two people were hurt by the ripple effect of the consequences of that sin. It is okay to be sorry toward both people, to love both people, and not have to choose a side. … Our responsibility is that we must … Continue reading “Taking a Side is Sometimes Appropriate! Highpoint Church Fiasco Illustrates.”
In defense of men during this #metoo moment
I am a man. I am an ordained evangelical minister. And I am not ashamed of those facts! What troubles me about some reactions to the Andy Savage story is how they assume this is normal behavior of evangelical ministers or even young Christian men. It is not! We are not all predators. When I was … Continue reading “In defense of men during this #metoo moment”
Good men. Good women. They exist.
He replied again, “I have zealously served the Lord God Almighty. But the people of Israel have broken their covenant with you, torn down your altars, and killed every one of your prophets. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me, too.” … “Yet I will preserve 7,000 others in Israel … Continue reading “Good men. Good women. They exist.”
When most vulnerable…
Cheaters seem to thrive on cheating when their spouse is most vulnerable. This is yet another demonic pattern that I have noticed. The vulnerable time might take multiple forms: -Maybe the faithful spouse is in a fight for her life dealing with breast cancer? -Maybe it is a faithful husband who just was fired from … Continue reading “When most vulnerable…”
Cheater-Speak: “I thought you would get angry.” Continued…
“I thought you would get angry. That is why I didn’t tell you.” -Cheater (on why she lied) to faithful spouse This sort of statement is red meat to therapists and pastors who see their roles as rescuers. They hear something like this, and immediately jump to rescue the (cheating) “damsel in distress.” They are … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I thought you would get angry.” Continued…”
“You must not have been meeting his needs.”
“You must not have been meeting his needs.” -Cheater Apologist A version of this statement could also be said to men who discovered their cheating wives. It is victim blaming, pure and simple. The speaker often forgets that two people were not getting their “needs” met if one was not. Yet both did not respond … Continue reading ““You must not have been meeting his needs.””
PSA: Love-Bombing Christians
“I only say this because I love you.” -Love-Bombing Christian to Faithful Spouse Beware of whatever follows such a statement! Why would someone need to profess their love for you unless they are about to say something that would put that love in question? This is a tactic to disarm. It is use against trusting … Continue reading “PSA: Love-Bombing Christians”
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?”
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?” – Cheater Apologist This is a loaded question. If you even attempt to answer the question, you will lose. No good ways to answer this question exist. It is like the classic loaded question: “When will you stop beating your wife?” Like this question assuming that you are beating … Continue reading ““Why did she HAVE TO leave?””
Give Thanks! Happy Thanksgiving!
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good. His love endures forever. -Psalm 136:1, NIV Even in the midst of great loss and tragedy, I believe it is even more important to give thanks to God. Satan wants to use the trials and traumas of this life to drive a wedge between us and our loving … Continue reading “Give Thanks! Happy Thanksgiving!”