20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer,that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? -I John 4:20, NLT Is this love? Lying to, abusing, stealing, and otherwise risking the well-being of another. Of course, not. This … Continue reading “Is that love? No. It is not.”
Category: Emotional Affair
“It doesn’t matter what she did,” says cheater apologist.
“It doesn’t matter what she did. You need to focus on your own sins.” – Cheater Apologist This sort of response is the very definition of dismissive. It has all the appearance of godliness without the substance. Of course, adultery–i.e. the victimization of faithful spouses–matters to God! When someone responds by being dismissive of adultery or … Continue reading ““It doesn’t matter what she did,” says cheater apologist.”
Chuztpah of cheaters complaining about “communication”
“He never talks to me!” whines Cheater. I find it really rich that a cheater would complain about lack of communication from the faithful spouse. It takes a lot of prideful blindness to make such a complaint. Pure chutzpah! Remember: The cheater is perfectly fine not communicating with the faithful spouse how they are stealing … Continue reading “Chuztpah of cheaters complaining about “communication””
Be best friends with your ex? No, Christian, you don’t.
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are.” -Matthew 23:15, NIV Public Service Announcement: Faithful spouses, you don’t have to become BFFs with … Continue reading “Be best friends with your ex? No, Christian, you don’t.”
Dumb stuff “Christians” say
Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. -Proverbs 17:28 More Christians could learn from that fool from Proverbs 17:28 who held his tongue when it comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. Sadly, the advice and condemnation come all too freely for faithful spouses. Here a few … Continue reading “Dumb stuff “Christians” say”
Life legacy and fleeting nature of our lives
Our days on earth are like grass; like wildflowers, we bloom and die. -Psalm 103:15, NLT How fleeting and short life is. This was impressed upon me recently when a good friend was killed with his wife in a car accident. We do not know when our final day is. A cheater lives as if … Continue reading “Life legacy and fleeting nature of our lives”
Cheating to “get attention”
“I had to cheat to get your attention.” -Cheater This is an especially sick cheater-speak. The cheater trades on a truth–namely, the affair got your attention. This obscures the lie that only an affair could get your attention and/or such a means justifies the ends. Plenty of things will get another person’s attention that we should not do! … Continue reading “Cheating to “get attention””
Don’t give up on God, faithful spouse!
Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. -James 1:12, NIV The temptation to give up on God is great when going through the spiritual abuse that often comes with a divorce from a … Continue reading “Don’t give up on God, faithful spouse!”
It is not you, faithful spouse.
When a cheater cheats, it is important to understand that such behavior has nothing to do with you, faithful spouse. It is about the cheater’s character. These sinful actions are the overflow of wickedness in the cheater’s heart (see Mark 7:21-23). Do not let a pastor or a cheater or a counselor convince you otherwise! … Continue reading “It is not you, faithful spouse.”
When cheaters see no problem…
Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.* -Matthew 7:5, NIV If your cheater does not understand and affirm that the presence of the Other Man/Other Woman is a problem, then your marriage is doomed without any … Continue reading “When cheaters see no problem…”