Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right. -Proverbs 20:11, KJV Look at your partner’s actions. Is this the sort of thing someone who truly loves another person would do to them? Is this the sort of thing someone who truly is sorry would do? Is this the … Continue reading “Stop fighting what IS!”
Category: Emotional Affair
No one deserves the adulterous betrayal and discard!
Two wrongs do not make a right. -Moms around the world No one ever deserves the adulterous betrayal and discard. Another way of saying this is to say that NOTHING justifies committing sins against another. I do not read the Bible ever giving us permission to sin. Adultery is sin. Discarding a faithful spouse after cheating on … Continue reading “No one deserves the adulterous betrayal and discard!”
Vulnerable, vulnerable, vulnerable!
Beware that the ending of your marriage leaves you vulnerable! I am not suggesting living in fear. However, I recommend a sober-eyed assessment about how your needs leave you open to unhealthy relationships. In separation and early divorce, you are grieving and learning how to deal with loneliness and loss of intimacy with the opposite … Continue reading “Vulnerable, vulnerable, vulnerable!”
Cheaters “under the influence”
Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit…. Ephesians 5:18, NIV What if your cheater was drunk or “under the influence” of another drug when she cheated? I actually have more hope for those marriages than the ones where a substance was not involved. My reasoning is the … Continue reading “Cheaters “under the influence””
Unconditional Love and Consequences
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.” -Hebrews 12:5b-6, NIV I totally believe God loves us, His children, with an unconditional love. Our place in God’s heart is not determine … Continue reading “Unconditional Love and Consequences”
Good Christian or Cheater? Not both.
Good Christian or Cheater? You choose. You don’t get both. “Christian” cheaters hate having their infidelity exposed. They despise the inconvenience it causes them. It shatters their image as a “good Christian” for anyone with a modicum of theological sense…as it ought to. The thing is that a cheater must choose between their life of lies … Continue reading “Good Christian or Cheater? Not both.”
Save your breath
Don’t waste your breath on fools, for they will despise the wisest advice. -Proverbs 23:9, NLT Cheaters are stuck in the fools’ camp when they are stuck in their cheating ways. They only greater fools are the pastors and Christian leaders thinking they can convince the cheater through wise words to halt their folly. … Continue reading “Save your breath”
Cheater: “I don’t know if I can commit to our marriage.”
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Mattew 19:6b, KJV “I don’t know if I can commit to our marriage,” says the cheater. “Well, that tells me what I need to know. It is probably best we are not married anymore. I see now by your ambivalence that our values–liking keeping … Continue reading “Cheater: “I don’t know if I can commit to our marriage.””
DM, how might your book help a truly repentant cheater?
How might reading my book help a truly repentant cheater? If they have ears to hear as a truly repentant individual, my book would help them to understand the devastation created by their sin. It would help them see the world through their victim’s eyes. That said, the book is “strong medicine” for the unfaithful … Continue reading “DM, how might your book help a truly repentant cheater?”
Is a cheater forgiven if they refuse to admit wrongdoing?
Peter’s words pierced their hearts, and they said to him and to the other apostles, “Brothers, what should we do?” Peter replied, “Each of you must repent of your sins and turn to God….” -Acts 2:37-38a, NLT Remember how Jesus asked God to forgive those crucifying him from the cross (see Luke 23:34)? These verses … Continue reading “Is a cheater forgiven if they refuse to admit wrongdoing?”