“It doesn’t matter what she did. Let’s talk about YOUR sins.” – Cheater Apologist This sort of response is the very definition of dismissive. It has all the appearance of godliness without the substance. Of course, adultery–i.e. the victimization of faithful spouses–matters to God! When someone responds by being dismissive of adultery or infidelity, it is … Continue reading ““Let’s talk about YOUR sins,” says cheater apologist.”
Category: Emotional Affair
The destructive path
You can rationalize it all you want and justify the path of error you have chosen, but you’ll find out in the end that you took the road to destruction. -Proverbs 14:12, TPT “I have to follow my heart,” says the cheater. “God would want me to be happy,” says the cheater. “I have to … Continue reading “The destructive path”
Grateful God Condemns Adultery
God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4b, NLT God is love…. -I John 4:16b, KJV If God does not condemn anything, can God real be loving? I do not think so. That is why I am grateful God does condemn adultery as evil (see Deut. 22:22). Such condemnation is … Continue reading “Grateful God Condemns Adultery”
No marriage left to save as long as still cheating!
Public Service Notice: As long as the cheater is still cheating, you do not have a marriage to save. You cannot fix this situation on your own. No matter how much you want to stay married. That is all you will do. You will stay attached to your abuser. What you won’t have is a … Continue reading “No marriage left to save as long as still cheating!”
Upset about moral warnings!
…do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. -Malachi 2:15b, NIV Whether it is their conscience or the demonic, I do not know. What I know is some cheaters despise reminders of God’s condemnation of their infidelity. They rage and strike out verbally when reminded what they are doing is wrong in the … Continue reading “Upset about moral warnings!”
Repentance is the price of admission.
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV (emphasis mine) You are wasting your time with a cheater if they are not repenting. The sinful behavior will continue with all its abuse without this critical change. Please, faithful spouse, do not settle for less … Continue reading “Repentance is the price of admission.”
Get out of the wicked cycle
Anyone recognize the following cycle? Cheat. Cheater says, “It was a ‘cry for help.’ [Insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Cheat, again. Cheater says, “Our marriage problems have nothing to do with [affair partner]. You know that you [insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Continues cheating. This cycle is nothing new. Cheaters do … Continue reading “Get out of the wicked cycle”
Trivializing pain: “Stuff happens.”
Me: “I got divorced. Then I had to go through a trial with my denomination to keep my license.” Friend: “Don’t they realize that stuff happens.” I do not recommend the “stuff happens” response to someone whose marriage has been blown up by adultery. While I appreciate this friend’s effort to be understanding, the stance … Continue reading “Trivializing pain: “Stuff happens.””
Please, get tested for STDs!
One of the most humiliating aspects of dealing with a cheater is this need to know. If a cheater is unwilling to submit to STD tests, then you have your answer as to how repentant they are–i.e. not at all. It is rather low hanging fruit–so to speak–for a cheater to provide scientifically verified assurance … Continue reading “Please, get tested for STDs!”
Cheater-Speak: “We NEVER talk!”
“We NEVER talk!” cries Cheater. The irony about this sort of statement from a cheater is how their own failure to talk with the faithful spouse is by design. Whether emotional or physical or both, the affair was a relationship cloaked in secrecy. The cheater did not communicate this critical information–namely their cheating–to the faithful spouse. Yet, now, … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “We NEVER talk!””