Category: Emotional Affair

Yeah, how dare we! Ha.

How dare we object to being humiliated by our cheater! How dare we object to our cheater dirty dancing with another partner! How dare we object to our cheater taking another (romantic) partner as their plus one! Cheaters treat faithful spouses as the unreasonable one. Ironically, they are the unreasonable ones in these scenarios. Cheaters act entitled … Continue reading “Yeah, how dare we! Ha.”

Zobrist Saga Continues With Dirty Dancing Allegations

“During the celebration [church retirement party for Yawn], Julianna and Pastor Yawn both got drunk and were described in the filings as ‘dancing “on” each other in a provocative way that was very embarrassing to Ben Zobrist, especially in front of their close church friends.’ The dad-of-three baseball player privately rebuked his wife for her … Continue reading “Zobrist Saga Continues With Dirty Dancing Allegations”

Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of him.”

“I’m afraid of him,” she–aka the cheater–says. This like a blank check that a female cheater can cash in at anytime for sympathy and support from pastors and therapists alike. Most do not bother to ask any followup questions as to why she is claiming such fear. If they do, they might get: “I’m afraid, because … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of him.””

On expectations to be the “model” divorced spouse

“’I am innocent, but it makes no difference to me—     I despise my life.  Innocent or wicked, it is all the same to God.     That’s why I say, ‘He destroys both the blameless and the wicked.’” -Job 9:21-22, NLT Ever noticed the pressure among Christians to talk about “our part” when our marriages end in divorce–even … Continue reading “On expectations to be the “model” divorced spouse”

Haughty, naughty cheaters

As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT The spiritually fatal flaw of cheaters is their pride. They behave as if they know better than everyone, including God. Such individuals are beyond hope until they are humbled. Humility is essential for godliness. A cheater bereft of … Continue reading “Haughty, naughty cheaters”

What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say about submissive wives!

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. -Ephesians 5:24, NIV What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say! I did a post on a verse used against husbands (see here). This one is for the ladies–i.e. the faithful wives. Notice this verse and surrounding passage NEVER mentions divorce. Not … Continue reading “What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say about submissive wives!”

Words empty of their real meaning

Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! – Isaiah 5:20, KJV Private Definitions of Cheaters I can remember my undergraduate philosophy professor telling us on multiple occasions how to deal with difficult argument situations. … Continue reading “Words empty of their real meaning”

Disbelief of others

For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. -Luke 8:17, NIV Discovering infidelity is disorienting. What a faithful spouse needs are clear heads. What a faithful spouse does NOT need is someone feeding their disbelief over the cheating. An … Continue reading “Disbelief of others”

Validation. It is a precious gift!

Whether it is validation through evidence or validation from another human being who sees the real injustice and names it as such, validation is a precious gift. I truly believe such validation is necessary for healing from adultery and abandonment. We need to be seen. Our pain needs to matter to someone, which includes ourselves. … Continue reading “Validation. It is a precious gift!”