Boasting over your tolerance of sin is inappropriate. -I Corinthians 5:6a, TPT Some churches welcome adulterous spouses. They have no shame about this behavior. In fact, they celebrate how welcoming they are to these folks. It truly is head-scratching to think they see this sort of behavior as a faithful witness to how God wants … Continue reading “Adultery Tolerant Churches Are Anti-Biblical”
Category: Emotional Affair
Integrity is valuable.
Choose a good reputation over great riches; being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold. -Proverbs 22:1, NLT When a spouse cheats, they destroy their reputation. They demonstrate a lack of integrity. People learning of this reality is not the problem. It is the bad actions that are! Many cheaters are upset about … Continue reading “Integrity is valuable.”
Yes, some people are THAT bad!
But when people keep on sinning, it shows that they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning. -I John 3:8, NLT One of the hardest parts of dealing with a cheater is believing the dark reality of what their behavior means. I know my experience was growing out of a naivete … Continue reading “Yes, some people are THAT bad!”
Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?
Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the Lord has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin. Nevertheless, because you have shown utter contempt for the word of the Lord by doing this, your child will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NLT Is the cheater asking for forgiveness or simply seeking to avoid … Continue reading “Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?”
Cut the Connection
When at a conference following the fresh official end to my first marriage, I was given some solid advice about my future. Like two ships untying their lines from a dock, I was told to let my ex-wife sail her ship away, and I was to do the same. It was about cutting the cord … Continue reading “Cut the Connection”
Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story
This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, … Continue reading “Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story”
Cheater-Speak (Continued): “I lied because I thought you’d get angry.”
“I thought you would get angry. That is why I didn’t tell you.” -Cheater (on why she lied) to faithful spouse This sort of statement is red meat to therapists and pastors who see their roles as rescuers. They hear something like this, and immediately jump to rescue the (cheating) “damsel in distress.” They are … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak (Continued): “I lied because I thought you’d get angry.””
Cheaters seem to cheat while faithful spouses are most vulnerable.
Cheaters seem to thrive on cheating when their spouse is most vulnerable. This is yet another demonic pattern that I have noticed. The vulnerable time might take multiple forms: -Maybe the faithful spouse is in a fight for her life dealing with breast cancer? -Maybe it is a faithful husband who just was fired from … Continue reading “Cheaters seem to cheat while faithful spouses are most vulnerable.”
Cheater Narrative “Death” Match
Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions. -Proverbs 18:2, NIV Cheaters have a vested interest in having your agreement to their marriage ending narrative. If they have anything left of a conscience, they hope to alleviate the internal pain by getting your agreement to their narrative. Of course, this … Continue reading “Cheater Narrative “Death” Match”
Will never face the damage
But when Pharaoh saw that there was relief, he hardened his heart and did not heed them, as the Lord had said. -Exodus 8:15, NKJV Some cheaters will never face the damage they created through their sins. This is a fact of life. God allows people to harden their hearts just as He allowed Pharaoh to do. Christians are … Continue reading “Will never face the damage”