Where are the “Adultery Prevention Marriage Seminars?” Sure, there are plenty of “affair-proofing” marriage seminars. But I am talking about the sort of seminars where pastors talk about adultery and taking personal responsibility for one’s own sins. Instead of talking about the horrors of divorce–like pretty much every pre-marital book I read does–why not talk … Continue reading “Where are all those Christian “Adultery Prevention Marriage Seminars?””
Category: Emotional Affair
Community Fall Out
If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV Too often, adultery is treated as a private matter between the faithful … Continue reading “Community Fall Out”
Once seen and experienced…
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. -I Corinthians 13:11, NKJV I was dangerously naive in my first marriage. This was very apparent to me as I entered through the valley … Continue reading “Once seen and experienced…”
Cheater-Speak: “I was just trying to get your attention.”
“I was just trying to get your attention. That is all that this affair is about.” -Cheater This is another diversionary trick Cheaters do. They drop a line like this and watch as counselors and/or pastors divert their attention away from the affair towards the faithful spouse’s “flaws.” Sadly, this ploy has a reasonable chance … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I was just trying to get your attention.””
Cheater’s “Grace” as “Cheap Grace”
…cheap grace — “the preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance.” Cheap grace wrongly separates absolution of sin from acknowledgment of that sin. -Katelyn Beaty, “The Mistake Christians Made in Defending Bill O’Reilly Cheaters and “cheap grace” Beaty’s article takes aim at some prominent conservatives and evangelical leaders. In particular, her article exposes the hypocrisy of … Continue reading “Cheater’s “Grace” as “Cheap Grace””
The Disconnect
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” -Malachi 2:13-14a, NIV The disconnect between what some “Christians” say and do is astounding. -A cheater apologist can talk about righteous living while turning a … Continue reading “The Disconnect”
Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?
“I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more.” -2 Samuel 12:8, NIV What do we make of God saying that He would have given King David more … Continue reading “Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?”
Ring Bellwether
When a cheater goes on vacation and removes her wedding ring, you can be sure she is emotionally unfaithful (and likely more). The wedding ring minds us and others that we are married. It is a symbol that helps signal socially that the person is unavailable. A person choosing to remove this article and “forget” … Continue reading “Ring Bellwether”
Courageous Confrontation Gift
It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:12, NLT The path of least resistance with a cheater “friend” is to agree with their sob-story over how they “were driven” to cheat on their spouse. But that is NOT the … Continue reading “Courageous Confrontation Gift”
Unspoken.
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV When divorce is condemned as a whole from the pulpit, this means all divorce is condemned. Left unspoken is the acknowledgement of those who find themselves divorced against their will and those divorced because they married an abusive, adulterous spouse. Because those … Continue reading “Unspoken.”