If they blame you for their emotional affair… …be aware that they will have no problem blaming you for a physical affair, too! This is one of the many reasons to take an emotional affair seriously. Once the cheater feels embolden to believe lies about emotional affairs–namely, they are not responsible for such sin–then consider … Continue reading “If they blame you for their emotional affair…”
Category: Emotional Affair
The “Deadwood Friends”
But Jesus said, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?” -Luke 22:48, NLT Some “friends” will “kiss” you with words-bespeaking of their love for you-while they further the cheater’s agenda of blame-shifting the infidelity and marriage’s demise upon you. It is confusing enough dealing with the lies and deceptions of a … Continue reading “The “Deadwood Friends””
Cheater claims “toxic marriage”
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “Cheater claims “toxic marriage””
Words from a proven liar
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy. -Proverbs 12:22, NIV A spouse cannot commit adultery without being a liar. They vowed to “forsake all others,” and they broke that vow. They lied. This is an important truth to keep in mind when dealing with a cheater. It is vital … Continue reading “Words from a proven liar”
Spiritual Sickness and Forgiveness
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV If you are stabbing your mate in the soul by committing adultery and twisting the “knife” by lying about it, you are not spiritually healthy. You are spiritually sick. Forgiveness from a faithful spouse does not necessarily … Continue reading “Spiritual Sickness and Forgiveness”
Beware of those seeking your “sin” confession
When going through a divorce from a cheater, I would caution against trusting someone overly fixated on hearing your “confession.” Confessing one’s sins is a highly vulnerable thing to do. Not everyone deserves to have such access to your heart. Some “Christians” are not ashamed to weaponize that information against you. Be wise. The person … Continue reading “Beware of those seeking your “sin” confession”
Not “understandable” but rather UNACCEPTABLE!!!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV So much energy is often spent trying to “understand” why a cheater cheated. Such energy–especially in churches–is better spent teaching what the Bible teaches–namely, adultery is ALWAYS unacceptable. Circumstances matter not. Adultery is ALWAYS sin. I wonder how many marriages would have been saved this trauma (and … Continue reading “Not “understandable” but rather UNACCEPTABLE!!!”
When a “lack” of sex or emotional attention is cited as the infidelity cause…
“For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.” -Mark 7:21-23, NIV When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause… Infidelity is not … Continue reading “When a “lack” of sex or emotional attention is cited as the infidelity cause…”
Godly obedience? Not a cheater strength.
Jesus answered and said unto him, “If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.” -John 14:23, KJV Cheaters may profess love of God… …but their actions say otherwise. You see, the Christian faith place demands … Continue reading “Godly obedience? Not a cheater strength.”
How do you put a price on that?
…whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4b, KJV How do you put a price on that? Some Christians are so busy blaming a faithful spouse that they fail to see the incredible loses this individual has unjustly endured. They do not “get it.” In the evangelical culture, many of us were raised to value … Continue reading “How do you put a price on that?”