Category: Forgiveness

Holding The Tension On Divorce

  To the faithful you show yourself faithful,     to the blameless you show yourself blameless, to the pure you show yourself pure,     but to the devious you show yourself shrewd. You save the humble     but bring low those whose eyes are haughty. -Psalm 18:25-27, NIV A tension is present when it comes to the question … Continue reading “Holding The Tension On Divorce”

False Spiritual Safety

“Many will say to me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?’ And then will I profess unto them, ‘I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.’” -Matthew 7:22-23, KJV (quotation marks … Continue reading “False Spiritual Safety”

Better Divorced Than Damned!

“And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me,” … Continue reading “Better Divorced Than Damned!”

3 Points For Christian Counselors – From A Christian Client Perspective

During my first marriage, my (now) ex and I attended counseling sessions from a variety of individuals. Some were okay and others were downright destructive. Today’s post is about three charges I wished all those “Christian” therapists would have grasped and honored. ***I am speaking not as a therapist, but rather as a pastor and faithful spouse … Continue reading “3 Points For Christian Counselors – From A Christian Client Perspective”

Protestantism, Forgiveness, and Failing Adultery Victims

So they sat down with him upon the ground seven days and seven nights, and none spake a word unto him: for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, KJV Protestantism is big on sin and forgiveness. Emphasis on sin and forgiveness is pervasive through evangelical teaching and preaching. That is good. … Continue reading “Protestantism, Forgiveness, and Failing Adultery Victims”

Adultery is not a victimless “crime.”

You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. -Malachi 2:14, NIV By now, I bet most people have had to suffer through the public service announcement on … Continue reading “Adultery is not a victimless “crime.””

Buddy-Buddy Assumption

“Therefore let all Israel be assured of this: God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified, both Lord and Messiah.” -Acts 2:36, NIV (emphasis mine) Some Christians who have never experienced the very personal and humiliating betrayal of an adulterous spouse can be incredibly insensitive to those of us who have. One way this insensitivity … Continue reading “Buddy-Buddy Assumption”

Ask: Where is the loving much?

“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” -Luke 7:47, NIV The amount of gratitude ought to match the amount forgiven. This is one lesson I take from Jesus’ teaching in this verse. And it is an important spiritual lesson … Continue reading “Ask: Where is the loving much?”

On Cheater Requests To Meet Up Post-Divorce

For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NIV Cheaters requesting post-divorce meetups is such a strange phenomenon to me. I know from reading others’ experiences that this is a real phenomenon. My cheater wanted to meet up after the fact (see post here). … Continue reading “On Cheater Requests To Meet Up Post-Divorce”