“Three women who worked at the [massage/spa] businesses, located in a strip mall in the Atlanta suburbs, told Christianity Today that Ravi Zacharias touched them inappropriately, exposed himself, and masturbated during regular treatments over a period of about five years.” -Daniel Silliman, “Ravi Zacharias’s Ministry Investigates Claims of Sexual Misconduct at Spas: Three women have … Continue reading “Three more women accuse Ravi Zacharias of sexual misconduct”
Author: Divorce Minister
When a cheater declines offer to rebuild marriage…
“Even if she cheated on me, I would still stay with her and try to make the marriage work,” says faithful spouse. “You’d just hold that over her head forever,” replies cheater apologist. When this is the mentality or response from the cheater side, you know the marriage is done. This sort of response exposes … Continue reading “When a cheater declines offer to rebuild marriage…”
Does get better!
He brought me forth also into a large place; he delivered me, because he delighted in me. -Psalm 18:19, KJV If you are like me, I wanted everything to just go back to how “it was” in the immediate adultery discovery and divorce. The pain was acute. The loneliness was palatable. The tragedy of a … Continue reading “Does get better!”
Cheater refusal to repent not OKAY!
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV These two verse uttered by Jesus are why I doubt … Continue reading “Cheater refusal to repent not OKAY!”
Miracle job
Eight years ago yesterday, I started my Chaplaincy Residency at a Veterans Affairs Medical Center in my home state. This job was a gift from God. It shouldn’t have been available as late in the year as it was. Plus, it was back “home” for me. God knew I needed this job to weather my … Continue reading “Miracle job”
Crossing over into emotional affair territory
Ever experienced a cheater deeply worried about another’s feelings? They are just trying to be a good “hostess.” What is important is that this “friend” feels comfortable. They want their approval. What is NOT important to this person is how their spouse feels or thinks! This is a tell-tale sign that your spouse is cheating. … Continue reading “Crossing over into emotional affair territory”
Thinking legacy.
And Samuel died; and all the Israelites were gathered together, and lamented him, and buried him in his house at Ramah. -I Samuel 25:1a, KJV When my maternal grandfather died, they shut down his small North Dakotan town to bury him. That’s the sort of impact I hope to have on those around me. I … Continue reading “Thinking legacy.”
Mailbag: How long will it take for me to recover?
Dear DM, Thank you for your blog and the articles in there. I recently stumbled across your blog because 2 weeks ago I discovered my husband having an affair (he has been having an affair for 4 months and only confessed because he got found out. If I had not found out it would have gone … Continue reading “Mailbag: How long will it take for me to recover?”
Liars with God?
Who may stand in his holy place? Only those whose hands and hearts are pure, who do not worship idols and never tell lies. -Psalm 24:3b-4, NLT What struck me this morning as I read this verse out of the New Living Translation was how seriously God takes lying. Lying is named right next to … Continue reading “Liars with God?”
Fall From Grace: Ravi Zacharias and Clergy Sexual Abuse
Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife…. -1 Timothy 3:2a, NIV Growing up, I admired the late Ravi Zacharias as an intellectual hero of the Christian faith. In high school and my undergraduate years, I would regularly listen to his radio broadcasts as he presented a “brainy” Christianity. For someone … Continue reading “Fall From Grace: Ravi Zacharias and Clergy Sexual Abuse”