But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. -Luke 2:51b, NIV This post is to acknowledge and celebrate all those amazing mothers who come here. The world is a better place because of your dedication and faithfulness–even and especially–in this world broken by treachery and sin. Happy Mother’s Day! I know I am … Continue reading “Celebrating Mighty Mothers!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Don’t open the door
“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.” -Luke 17:3b, NLT This past week I was reminded of some wisdom I heard years ago from a pastor-mentor of mine. It was advice about dealing with destructive people. He told me not to to “open the door” wide to an individual … Continue reading “Don’t open the door”
Encouraging Psalm 31
Today, I am just leaving you with one of my favorite Psalms. Its promises and heart cries to God were especially meaningful to me as I went through deep valleys of my first marriage’s end. Psalm 31 King James Version (KJV) 1 In thee, O Lord, do I put my trust; let me never be ashamed: … Continue reading “Encouraging Psalm 31”
On Forgiveness
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. -Ephesians 4:32, NIV Today, I have been working on the concept of forgiveness in my personal and professional life. The discussion I had on this topic included talking about how repentance is part of the equation of healthy, … Continue reading “On Forgiveness”
Reprise: Dealing with friends post-adultery and divorce
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. -Proverbs 18:24, NIV Today, I am writing a post about what I learned concerning friendships following my ex’s adultery and my divorce. These are lessons I learned from my personal experience, and I speak from … Continue reading “Reprise: Dealing with friends post-adultery and divorce”
FACT: CHEATERS ARE MARRIAGE FLUNKIES!
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV (from The Ten Commandments) Fact: Cheaters are marriage flunkies. One of the most basic lessons in Christian marriage is adhering to this classic and consistent prohibition regarding sex with marriage outsiders. Cheaters have–spectacularly, in some cases–flunked this most basic of marriage lessons. Yet for some reason, … Continue reading “FACT: CHEATERS ARE MARRIAGE FLUNKIES!”
“Not Sorry” Looks Like a List!
How do you know if your cheater is truly repentant? Well, if he or she responds to being exposed by sharing a list of your “short-comings,” then the cheater is not likely repentant. The cheater might even agree that what he or she did was wrong. However, that acknowledgment is brushed aside so that he … Continue reading ““Not Sorry” Looks Like a List!”
Pro-Tip: If they are encouraging you to welcome others’ attention…
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.” -Job 31:1, NLT An adage among fidelity website(s) is how if a spouse suggests living in an “open marriage” that you already are in one. This same wisdom applies–in my opinion–to situations where a cheater suggests the faithful spouse … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: If they are encouraging you to welcome others’ attention…”
What if adultery was treated as the enemy more than divorce?!
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT What if adultery was treated as the enemy more than divorce in our churches?! A truly astounding teaching–whether spoken or implied–is how Christians treat divorce as a … Continue reading “What if adultery was treated as the enemy more than divorce?!”
Did not choose this!
Even when filing the divorce papers, the faithful spouse really did not choose this outcome. What they chose was a marriage free of infidelity! The filing of the papers was the choice they had left after the choice of the cheater to destroy the agreed upon future by being unfaithful. The good options–the preferred option–was … Continue reading “Did not choose this!”