For the Lord is righteous, he loves justice…. -Psalm 11:7a, NIV Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue, in my opinion. I know many issues in this world are related to the imbalance of justice. Adultery and adultery victims are not the only ones suffering from a world run through with injustice. Yet they are suffering injustices. … Continue reading “Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue.”
Author: Divorce Minister
Bad marriages cause infidelity is a lie.
“For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person….” -Matthew 15:19-20a, NIV Bad marriages cause infidelity = Lie! When Jesus talks here about sexual immorality and adultery, I do not see any long explanation about the sad state of the culture around … Continue reading “Bad marriages cause infidelity is a lie.”
Cheater bragging
Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers. -Psalm 1:1, NLT A couple of days ago, I ran across a short video where a young woman was talking about cheating. She claimed that women don’t cheat on good men. … Continue reading “Cheater bragging”
Growing Gratitude
Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? -Matthew 6:26, NKJV The discipline of gratitude is the secret to an abundant life. Of this, I am convinced. Grateful people do not live … Continue reading “Growing Gratitude”
Interesting Stuck Phenomenon
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV Discovering cheating can launch one into a season of … Continue reading “Interesting Stuck Phenomenon”
Could’ve stayed stuck
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Could’ve stayed stuck”
Did not care (when I should have)
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT When my (now) ex-wife confessed an emotional affair, I did not take it seriously. Honestly, I did not care. This was a criticial error on my part. … Continue reading “Did not care (when I should have)”
Unchosen path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family at that time. But I … Continue reading “Unchosen path”
More concerned with how you found out!
Pro-Tip: When the cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “More concerned with how you found out!”
“You never really know what happens in a marriage.”
“You never really know what happens in a marriage,” says “friend.” If this is how your “friend” responds to your disclosure of infidelity abuse, you need to find a new, true friend. This person does not want to face a difficult truth and is telling you their unwilling to be supportive of you. Again, there … Continue reading ““You never really know what happens in a marriage.””