“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones God’s messengers! How often I have wanted to gather your children together as a hen protects her chicks beneath her wings, but you wouldn’t let me.” -Matthew 23:37, NLT Jesus wanted to see the Jewish people turn to him. We see this in this … Continue reading “Accepting their decision”
Author: Divorce Minister
Crushed versus Crusher
20 A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out, till he has brought justice through to victory. 21 In his name the nations will put their hope.” -Matthew 12:20-21, NIV Crushed versus Crusher A pastoral error frequently made when handling infidelity cases is treating both parties the same way. … Continue reading “Crushed versus Crusher”
Always Owing You
“I’d forgive her even if she cheated on me,” says Faithful Husband. “You’d just hold that over her head forever,” says Cheater Apologist. Some disordered people only view relationships through the lens of power and leverage. Such response tells you everything you need to know about their “kingdom” alliance. They could care less about godliness … Continue reading “Always Owing You”
Gotta Rid of THOSE Voices!
Recently, I ran across this Gospel new release. It has good lyrics warning us about influences that might outwardly look good but are bad for us. The whole song struck me as especially applicable for faithful spouses dealing with religious cheaters or cheater supporters. Plus, it speaks to the spiritual abusive programming going on between … Continue reading “Gotta Rid of THOSE Voices!”
Kind Confirmation
36 And Gideon said unto God, “If thou wilt save Israel by mine hand, as thou hast said, 37 Behold, I will put a fleece of wool in the floor; and if the dew be on the fleece only, and it be dry upon all the earth beside, then shall I know that thou wilt save Israel … Continue reading “Kind Confirmation”
Good Shepherd Fends Off Predators!
12 The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. -John 10:12, NIV Sometimes being a good pastor means being a good shepherd and protecting the sheep from wolves. … Continue reading “Good Shepherd Fends Off Predators!”
Stuck via cheater denial
How many were deceived for a longer period of time because your cheater explicitly denied what he or she was doing? “I would never cheat on you.” “You know me better than that. There isn’t another man [or woman] involved.” “We need to focus on your problems. Don’t worry about me. I wouldn’t cheat on … Continue reading “Stuck via cheater denial”
Once a cheater…
Once a cheater, always a cheater. -Common Saying Do I believe this common saying? Yes and no… but mostly yes. Cheating is a character deep problem. The actual cheating is symptomatic of a soul rot that needs drastic attention by the cheater in order to deal with it before it leaves to spiritual terminality. Most … Continue reading “Once a cheater…”
Cannot win with a cheater
Often times, you cannot win with a cheater. They will always choose to treat you like you are the problem. Here’s a recently released country song that talks about that:
Taken for granted
Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:18, NLT Cheaters are so quick to forget or devalue what you bring to the marriage. In the discarding phase, they might treat you as worthless. Some might go as far as to claim you bring and … Continue reading “Taken for granted”