“She has been cheating on me these last few months. I can’t stay married to her considering all of that,” says the faithful spouse. “Don’t be so hasty. After all, are you without sin?” says the cheater apologist. Such a response from a “Christian” cheater apologist is far from helpful. Not all sins have the … Continue reading “Cheater Apologist: Well, are you without sin?!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Unhelpful price for Christian “support”
Hate evil and love what is good; turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven’s Armies will have mercy on the remnant of his people. -Amos 5:15, NLT Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is an online community where I do not blame the victims of adultery. Too often, I … Continue reading “Unhelpful price for Christian “support””
No seductive lamb in that story!
4 “Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him. Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come … Continue reading “No seductive lamb in that story!”
Successful Lifting Meet
Today, I had a successful meet competing in the bench press. It was my first “raw” meet–meaning without the assistance of a shirt (gear). I hit 185kgs/407.8lbs. It was good for a national record in my federation for my age and size, drug tested. It is a fun hobby. I will be back to my … Continue reading “Successful Lifting Meet”
Big Hobby Day Tomorrow!
Hobbies are important for flourishing and recovering from infidelity trauma. I really encourage you to develop hobbies as you work towards your new life. For me, weight training has always been apart of my life both prior and after my first marriage. This weekend I get to compete in a weight lifting meet. I will … Continue reading “Big Hobby Day Tomorrow!”
Affairs are like chocolate chip cookies
A few months back, I watched a video where the commentator talked about cheating and likened it to cake. I am riffing off that commentary today. Affairs are like walking into the kitchen to find your Cheater holding two chocolate chip cookies…. You say, “You know that you aren’t supposed to be eating chocolate chip … Continue reading “Affairs are like chocolate chip cookies”
Dear DM, What about porn use?
Dear DM, It was a Godsend to come across your blog after as the evangelical Christian community’s biased view of divorce versus adultery is so prevalent, harsh, and unBiblical. Anyway, my current personal situation with marital infidelity is primarily related to decades of unrepentant porn use by my husband that has escalated over the years … Continue reading “Dear DM, What about porn use?”
Laugh with those who laugh
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV Laugh with those who laugh! I am grateful for the pets in my life. We have a full house of birds and lizards at the present. They bring such joy and laughter to our hearts! Years ago while I was … Continue reading “Laugh with those who laugh”
not willing
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the one who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, but you were not willing!” -Luke 13:34, NKJV Faithful spouses are often reminded of Jesus’ relationship with the Church. This relationship was predated … Continue reading “not willing”
Time for “new thing”
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes the marriage is not fixable, and it comes time to focus on a new thing. A cheater who refuses to repent makes a marriage not fixable. It would be unwise to reinvest in a … Continue reading “Time for “new thing””