“Why don’t you both take a break from each other?” -Clueless Counselor This is one of the dumbest pieces of advice given to a couple dealing with infidelity. The problems of an infidelity ravaged marriage are not solved by creating more distance and less accountability for the cheater. Both are the last things needed, actually. A break … Continue reading “Really BAD idea!”
A dream-prompting
Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many. -Hebrews 12:15b, NLT Each night, I pray that God would send me healing and prophetic dreams as I go to bed. This morning I woke remembering a vivid dream. It involved a “friend” who betrayed me in my divorce from … Continue reading “A dream-prompting”
My feelings regarding the Other Man
Keep to a path far from her [adulteress], do not go near the door of her house, lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich the house of another. -Proverbs 8-10, NIV How do I feel about the affair … Continue reading “My feelings regarding the Other Man”
Their sins are NOT in anyway your fault!
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. – 2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT You are NOT responsible for your Cheater’s sins. Period. If you are like me, you will encounter all sort of people … Continue reading “Their sins are NOT in anyway your fault!”
Anger towards “supporting characters”
God is an honest judge. He is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NLT Oddly enough, my anger was often directed to other bad actors in my divorce instead of the prime character–my (now) ex-wife. Certainly, I had good reason to feel angry towards those others. It was actually healthy to feel this … Continue reading “Anger towards “supporting characters””
Hosting Issues Yesterday – Tuesday, September 20th
Yesterday, my hosting company was migrating my website to their new servers. This created a situation where I was unable to post. Sorry for that.
DM Blog down 9-20-22 Technical Issues
Post coming tomorrow…
Adultery damages more than the faithful partner
Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words. -Job 2:13, NIV Just as the wedding day is a family event, the adultery discovery and divorce are felt by the same family as … Continue reading “Adultery damages more than the faithful partner”
Blog Paused – DM Going on a Spiritual Retreat
Today (Thursday, September 15), I leave to go to Kansas City for a spiritual retreat. As such, I am going to take a break from my regular postings. The retreat runs from today, September 15, through Sunday, September 18. After this, I will plan on resuming my regular postings. Thanks for understanding!
“A cry for help” affair excuse nonsense
“Don’t you see it [the cheating] was a cry for help?! If only you had ____ (fill in favorite cheater grievance with faithful spouse) more, then I wouldn’t have cheated.” -Unfaithful spouse Using the “Cry for help” excuse for an affair–either emotional or physical–is manipulation pure and simple. The cheater is using this label to … Continue reading ““A cry for help” affair excuse nonsense”