A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back. -Proverbs 29:11, NKJV I have little doubt cheaters have issues. They may even have some legitimate complaints about us, their spouses. However, these legitimate issues are not excuses to sin. God does not give us permission to sin. What many people get wrong with … Continue reading “Reacting to issues versus responding to issues”
Faith is choosing to praise God when He feels distant
…God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” -Hebrews 13:5b, NIV When faced with the trauma of discovering your cheater, you are faced with a spiritual choice: Will I choose to believe God’s promise to me or look at this with natural eyes believing the lie that God has already … Continue reading “Faith is choosing to praise God when He feels distant”
An emotional affair give away
“Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” -Matthew 19:6, NLT When your wife is more concerned about the opinion of her male “friend” than she is of her husband, you can be assured she has crossed over to an emotional affair, minimally. This is … Continue reading “An emotional affair give away”
Just keep your word.
Who may enter your presence on your holy hill? … Those who despise flagrant sinners, and honor the faithful followers of the Lord, and keep their promises even when it hurts. -Psalm 15:1b, 4, NLT A certain behavior really angers me. It is when people tell me one thing and do the opposite. It is something … Continue reading “Just keep your word.”
Falwell Affair News
Rueters dropped the explosive allegations that Jerry Falwell Jr. and Becki Falwell, his wife, were involved sexually with a young man, Giancarlo Granda. The specifics of the allegation include sexual relationships with Becki Falwell while Jerry Falwall Jr. watched. This happened allegedly over the years of 2012 to 2018. Jerry Falwall Jr confirmed in the … Continue reading “Falwell Affair News”
Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid. That is why I lied to you.”
“I was afraid of your reaction. That is why I lied.” -Cheater Like a child who did wrong, a cheater sometimes feigns fear in order to avoid accountability.* They equate a righteous anger response with reason or justification to lie to the spouse they have wronged. It is not godly. It is another reason I … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid. That is why I lied to you.””
Time to take adultery seriously. God does.
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT This verse says it all. It teaches us that God viewed adultery as a marriage ending sin. How so? God required the adulterous spouse to die in light of said … Continue reading “Time to take adultery seriously. God does.”
Cheaters are all about their image
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside are full of the bones of the dead and everything unclean.” -Matthew 23:27, NIV Few things are more hypocritical than committing adultery while maintaining one is a “good Christian.” … Continue reading “Cheaters are all about their image”
Fascinating Resource On Religious Leader Manipulations
I enjoy listening to a variety of podcasts when I am running errands and on my work commute. One of the podcasts I enjoy is “The Roys Report.” Julie Roys founded this news outlet reporting on issues within the church. She has been involved in exposing several scandals in the Chicago area including, for example, … Continue reading “Fascinating Resource On Religious Leader Manipulations”
Today would have been our 14th anniversary
Fourteen years ago today, I married my cheater. It feels like a lifetime ago. We were young and naive. At least, I was naive. The experience of marrying a cheater took away a lot of my innocence and naivete. Honestly, it equipped me for my work today–i.e. working in a prison with manipulative individuals. God … Continue reading “Today would have been our 14th anniversary”