Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see. -Hebrews 11:1 Colton Dixon’s “Build a Boat” is a song that a friend recently shared. I love the lyrics of this song. It is a song of faith. This is a song declaring faith. It is a … Continue reading “Encouraging Song of Faith”
If it is about power over…
But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them.” -Matthew 20:25, NLT “You will just keep that [her cheating] over her head forever [if she stayed married to you].” -Cheater apologist Some people view all relationships … Continue reading “If it is about power over…”
Grown toddler tantrums
Did you ever feel like the big, bad parent with your cheater? I think sometimes some engage in cheating behavior as a way to try and resolve family issues (non-therapist speaking here). They did not feel safe to do that with their mother or father. So, the faithful spouse gets all their rebellion in its … Continue reading “Grown toddler tantrums”
Learning to like oneself.
How could I have missed that?! I do not know if you can relate to asking this question of yourself. However, I think the fractured relationship with oneself is a relationship almost always needing attention. Part of the devastation of discovering a cheating spouse is discovering the deception was ongoing for a long period of time, … Continue reading “Learning to like oneself.”
A problem not for a spouse to solve
21 Under three things the earth quakes, And under four, it cannot bear up: … 23 Under an unloved woman when she gets a husband, And a maidservant when she supplants her mistress. -Proverbs 30:21, 23, NASB (emphasis mine) I can still picture the moment… We had just moved into our first home we bought together, and … Continue reading “A problem not for a spouse to solve”
Pastor Matt Chandler Put On Indefinite Leave Over Inappropriate Communications
So a church leader must be a man whose life is above reproach. -I Timothy 3:2a, NLT Pastor Matt Chandler was placed on leave because of his online behavior. In particular, his DMing of a married woman was considered. Here’s a statement from The Village Church leadership: “We are strong proponents of brothers and sisters … Continue reading “Pastor Matt Chandler Put On Indefinite Leave Over Inappropriate Communications”
Recognize the “tip” of the “Cheating Iceberg”
When dealing with a cheater who has lived a double life for months (or years), you likely only know a small part of the deception and infidelity. They have been at this deception for a while. What you know now is a fractured partial of the story, and they have demonstrated an unwillingness to clue … Continue reading “Recognize the “tip” of the “Cheating Iceberg””
A decade of changes
A decade ago, I was about to depart to cross half the country for my residency in Chaplaincy. I had just discovered the Other Man who had been part of the picture for months prior to my knowledge. The summer of 2012 was a highly unpleasant summer for me. It felt hopeless, honestly. My marriage … Continue reading “A decade of changes”
Selected and wanted as a friend!
“Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me. You didn’t choose me. I chose you.” -John 15:15b-16a, NLT I think one of the most endearing part of owning a dog (or parrot, in my case) is how they demonstrate how much they choose and want you! In this, they are … Continue reading “Selected and wanted as a friend!”
Rejoice with the rejoicing ones!
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV When I separated from my (now) ex-wife, I attended a wedding of a dear friend. It was a blast. I rejoiced with them. I could have been a party-pooper. Or I could have decided not to even go to the … Continue reading “Rejoice with the rejoicing ones!”