For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV A popular Christian curriculum for people going through divorce would regularly try to dissuade people from divorcing by pointing out the financial … Continue reading “O, the cost! Divorce scare tactics.”
Comfort from eternal belonging to God’s family
33 Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? -Romans 8:33-34a, NLT Uncertainty breeds fear. Our minds can imagine all sorts of horrors as we sit in a place of uncertainty. Marriage limbo is not an enjoyable place … Continue reading “Comfort from eternal belonging to God’s family”
Refuse to go another round on the crazy ride!
To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Refuse to go another round on the crazy ride!”
Lack of gratitude is a major red flag!
“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” -Luke 7:47, NIV The amount of gratitude ought to match the amount forgiven. This is one lesson I take from Jesus’ teaching in this verse. And it is an important spiritual lesson … Continue reading “Lack of gratitude is a major red flag!”
Pro-Tip: A refusal to engage on relationship positives is discard preparation.
When a cheater is done with you, they might refuse to talk about what they enjoy about being married to you. This makes it easier on them both to cheat on you and to discard you. After all, the positives would remind them of real losses that come with the ending of the marriage. Such … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: A refusal to engage on relationship positives is discard preparation.”
Cheater lines…
“I don’t love you anymore.” “I feel like we are just roommates.” “I need space.” Have you heard any of these “gems” come out of your cheater’s mouth? Maybe they spoke such words before you knew they were cheating on you? That would make sense. As these words are designed to hide their dastardly behavior … Continue reading “Cheater lines…”
Returned to old stomping grounds
I just returned from a wonderful trip out to the East Coast. Mrs. DM and I had a great time reconnecting with a bunch of my old friends. In one of those encounters, I was reminded how things might have been different. But it was short lived. The reality is I am truly blessed to … Continue reading “Returned to old stomping grounds”
Blog Paused April 21 through April 24, 2022
Going out of state for a trip. I plan on posting, again, on Monday, April 25th.
Travelling soon… blog may be on pause for a couple of days…
I will be flying out of state tomorrow (April 21) to celebrate an old roommate’s wedding on the East Coast. It is a trip I am both looking forward to but also am feeling ambivalence. This will be the first time out that I will have Mrs. DM with me as we visit the home … Continue reading “Travelling soon… blog may be on pause for a couple of days…”
Loved animals
I am a sucker for getting pets. We got another parrot shortly after our wedding anniversary. That brings our “flock” to three.* The latest is a talkative Jardine parrot. He is very beautiful and funny when he talks. An example is when he says, “Ooops” if his claws slip while walking on the newspaper. I … Continue reading “Loved animals”