But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the cheater leave! If a cheater is hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see this … Continue reading “Let the cheater go!”
Then it ALL started to make sense…
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Then it ALL started to make sense…”
Cheater curses
As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV Cheaters and their apologists say all sort of cruel and awful things about the faithful spouse. I would consider these things curses. They are using their mouth to degrade and attack the faithful party. It … Continue reading “Cheater curses”
Happy Mother’s Day to you, faithful moms!
The stories I have heard about the mighty moms from this community is truly amazing! Today is a celebration of you: all the natural or spiritual moms who have weathered this awful storm. I hope you do something special for yourself today.
Forever belonging
In healthy spirituality, belonging is never “on the table.” For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. -Romans 8:15, KJV When I am struggling with fear, I am usually disconnected from this truth found in Romans 8:15. The … Continue reading “Forever belonging”
Words a faithful spouse needs to hear
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And that’s right: you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. … Continue reading “Words a faithful spouse needs to hear”
Forgiveness as faith test
From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears. The earth trembled and quaked, and the foundations of the mountains shook; they trembled because he was angry. -Psalm 18:6b-7, NIV Can I trust God with my hurt? I think the answer to this question answering the question of whether or not … Continue reading “Forgiveness as faith test”
Cheater-Speak: “I had unmet emotional needs in our marriage.”
“You were all so busy with the kids. I felt neglected.” -Cheater “I never would have cheated if you had given me the attention he did!” -Cheater Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Your cheater may try to “justify” their sin to you. Maybe they will point to you spending too much time … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I had unmet emotional needs in our marriage.””
More details exposed in Lysa TerKeurst divorce
The [divorce] pleadings contain a series of text messages between Art [TerKeurst] and “Mistress X,” whom he allegedly met on the website SugarDaddy.com. He allegedly spent at least $118,000 of the TerKeursts’ money on the relationship, including paying for the mistress to move from Atlanta to Charlotte (near where Art resided), and buying her a … Continue reading “More details exposed in Lysa TerKeurst divorce”
Disarm the “brain blender” before talking marriage “history”
Telling lies about others is as harmful as hitting them with an ax, wounding them with a sword, or shooting them with a sharp arrow. -Proverbs 25:18, NLT One of the many things that baffles me about the accepted Christian “wisdom” on healing marriages ravaged by adultery is how often pastors and counselors seem to … Continue reading “Disarm the “brain blender” before talking marriage “history””