“I just was trying to get your attention [by cheating on you],” says Cheater. Whether they frame it as a “cry for help” or blame it as caused by the marriage conditions, the same mechanism is at work: The cheater is trying to use the cheating as a means to manipulate the faithful spouse to … Continue reading “Cheating as a way to manipulate the faithful spouse”
Addicted to the sexual attention
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV I am convinced some cheaters are just addicted to the sexual attention of others. They love the high of being pursued. This is why the typical Christian advice of pursuing a cheater … Continue reading “Addicted to the sexual attention”
How to avoid shipwrecking your faith!
Timothy, my son, I am giving you this command in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by recalling them you may fight the battle well, holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith. – 1 Timothy 1:18-19, … Continue reading “How to avoid shipwrecking your faith!”
Cheater-Speak: “That’s not my truth.”
“That’s not my truth! God wants me to be happy,” cries an exposed Cheater. Cheaters are big on trying to control how people perceive them. They will go through all sort of word-gymnastics to avoid the real truth. When someone dares to point out what they are doing is sin, they will twist the … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “That’s not my truth.””
Another birthday! Mine.
Today is my birthday! I am so grateful that I did not give into the despair during the darkest season of my life nearly a decade ago. Each day, this one especially, is a precious gift. These days I am exploring a new-ish hobby: equipped bench press. After I finish up with this post, I … Continue reading “Another birthday! Mine.”
The hard work of waiting
Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. -Ephesians 6:13, NKJV Waiting on God is tough. So much in our lives we do not control. All we control is our own choices and behaviors. This is one of the … Continue reading “The hard work of waiting”
On parenting and love!
See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! -I John 3:1a, NLT Do we believe this about how the Father views us? I believe this is the fundamental question for spiritual health. When I struggle with fear or worth issues, I usually am … Continue reading “On parenting and love!”
Some just love the darkness.
And the judgment is based on this fact: God’s light came into the world, but people loved the darkness more than the light, for their actions were evil. -John 3:19, NLT Some people will choose the darkness over the light. This was true in Jesus’ day, and it is certainly true today. A wise person … Continue reading “Some just love the darkness.”
We are actually commanded to judge!
I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin…. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:11a, 12, NLT Adultery certainly qualifies as sexual sin. What does the … Continue reading “We are actually commanded to judge!”
Pets truly help!
Mr. Pickles, the cat I am sure having Mr. Pickles, my cat, greatly helped my sanity. He made my apartment a home. I was able to come back to a living creature who actually was excited to see me. Unlike the bad reputation often given to cats, this cat actually waited for me at … Continue reading “Pets truly help!”