I like this song. It is a catchy tune, and the fact that my (ex) wife hated the song–as I remember it–does nothing to diminish my enjoyment of this song. In fact, it probably increases it. Her dislike of the song around the time it came out makes we wonder how long she had been … Continue reading “Reacting to a song? A clue.”
Cheater-speak: “It just happened.”
“It just happened.” -Cheater This sort of explanation of an affair is a way to avoid responsibility. It is a way to ascribe the affair to causes like blizzards and tsunamis. It just happened. Natural disasters “just happen.” Sin takes an agent. If this was not so, then God would not bother telling us NOT … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “It just happened.””
Listen of Love or Fear? Your choice.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV When faced with stressful circumstances, are you going to listen to Love or Fear? Fear tells us that it is too much. It intimidates. Fear tries to get us to … Continue reading “Listen of Love or Fear? Your choice.”
Biblical Case for Shame
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. -Ephesians 5:8a, NIV I believe a lie is always present when it comes to shame. Either we are being lied to, or we are living a lie. God did not design us to live in the darkness doing the deeds of the darkness. … Continue reading “Biblical Case for Shame”
Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22, NIV Much of the suffering faithful spouses experience is spiritual in nature. Writing this blog for a couple of years, the questions I encounter center around deep spiritual pain and confusion. These are not so much the nuts and … Continue reading “Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors”
Be present when the cheater “ends” it
Lying lips are abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly are his delight. -Proverbs 12:22, KJV Liars lie. And cheaters by the fact that they cheated are liars. A wise person does not just take them at their word. Words need to be verified by action. I do not recommend trusting a cheater … Continue reading “Be present when the cheater “ends” it”
You would think…
14 Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV You would think… …this verse said, “Thou shalt not divorce your spouse.” But it does NOT! The Bible does not treat divorce like it treats adultery. Our Ten Commandments doe NOT prohibit divorce. They prohibit adultery. This is clear. However, you would think Bible-believing pastors were preaching … Continue reading “You would think…”
When they try to normalize cheating…
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters often use the same plays. This is why I believe a dark spiritual element is evident in all cases of infidelity. The commonalities in behavior are too eerily alike to be just be coincidences. Some wicked force is coordinating this evil! One thing I remember my (now) … Continue reading “When they try to normalize cheating…”
Serrated Shame Words
There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, But the tongue of the wise promotes health. -Proverbs 12:18, NKJV Stuck with serrated shame. This is how I describe that experience you get when someone finds your emotionally vulnerable place and shames you there. It might only be a word or two. However, the damage … Continue reading “Serrated Shame Words”
The one pointing fingers…
When you made it to a counselor or pastor’s office, did your cheater take full responsibility or point fingers at you? I bet it was the later. Some pastors are naive enough (or complicit enough) to take the bait. They follow the finger of the cheater and focus on those “issues” to the exclusion of … Continue reading “The one pointing fingers…”