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Chapman on third party not being the cause….
“First, realize that the third person is never the full reason for separation. In fact, Guidepost 4 says that marital difficulty is caused by the marriage partners, not by someone outside the marriage….Your failures and those of your spouse brought about the crisis in your marriage.” -ONE MORE TRY by Gary Chapman, pp31-32. Oddly, I … Continue reading “Chapman on third party not being the cause….”
Enough!
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV When dealing with cheaters, I believe a spiritual dimension is at work and this dimension is darkly evil. A temptation for faithful spouses during this time is to cave to … Continue reading “Enough!”
Song to encourage
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. -Isaiah 40:31, KJV Dealing with abandonment and infidelity is exhausting. One of the songs I would return to for encouragement during the dark season of my … Continue reading “Song to encourage”
Taking care of self
When I was going through the deep valley of separation, adultery discovery, and divorce, I had to make conscience decisions to take care of myself. The grief is that extreme. For me, I had to remind myself to eat. If I did not do this, then I would not have eaten at all during that … Continue reading “Taking care of self”
Over that line, big time!
Have you ever done a “mind map?” As I remember them from grade school, this is a brainstorming tool where one has a main idea in a bubble then related ideas connected to that bubble to form a web like picture. I know of a situation involving a cheater who utilized this tool to figure … Continue reading “Over that line, big time!”
Christmas and Busy Angels
And being warned of God in a dream that they should not return to Herod, they departed into their own country another way. -Matthew 2:12, KJV When Jesus was vulnerable as a baby, we see a battle to end his life and God sending His angels to preserve Him. God still operates in this way. … Continue reading “Christmas and Busy Angels”
DM: Forged by the fire
“See, it is I who created the blacksmith who fans the coals into flame and forges a weapon fit for its work. And it is I who have created the destroyer to wreak havoc; no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of … Continue reading “DM: Forged by the fire”
Sometimes our spirits register wrongs
When I was attending counseling sessions with my ex, I remember feeling full of panic going to these lay counselors. The time with them was upsetting to put it mildly. I suspect my anger and fear–i.e. panic–were registering danger even though my head was unable to make sense of it in the moment. God has … Continue reading “Sometimes our spirits register wrongs”
I envy.
I envy some faithful spouses. The cheater cheats on them, gets discovered, and the faithful spouse does not even blink an eye in telling that cheater it is over. They refuse to be treated like that. They exercise their permission to divorce without looking back. That wasn’t me. I suspect many of us did what … Continue reading “I envy.”