The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV We hear stories in the news of bullies pushing people to kill themselves. It is truly awful. (By the way, please call 911 or reach out for emergency medical assistance if you are seriously considering suicide. The … Continue reading “Cheaters as Bullies”
Infidelity Discovery and Suicide
“Let the day of my birth be erased, and the night I was conceived.” -Job 3:3, NLT ***THIS WEBSITE IS NOT DESIGNED TO PROVIDE MENTAL HEALTH ADVICE. IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS AND/OR HAVE A PLAN TO KILL YOURSELF, PLEASE CONTACT EMERGENCY MEDICAL PROVIDERS IMMEDIATELY (CALL 911 IN THE USA). I ASSURE YOU LIFE … Continue reading “Infidelity Discovery and Suicide”
Adultery Victim AND …
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV While adultery victims are not less than victims of their cheaters, they are also more. They are FAITHFUL SPOUSES! SURVIVORS. Just because we have been cheated upon does not mean … Continue reading “Adultery Victim AND …”
Divorce Minister Going Strong!
He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. -2 Corinthians 1:4, NLT When I started this blog now nearly three years ago, I thought maybe a few friends and family might be … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Going Strong!”
Faithful Spouses, You ROCK!!
After months, years, or even decades of emotional beat-downs, faithful spouses often struggle in knowing their incredible worth. We discount our gifts, abilities, and precious status in God’s eyes. Faithful spouses, you are an incredible bunch! The stories I hear and the people I have met through this ministry confirms this fact to me. I … Continue reading “Faithful Spouses, You ROCK!!”
Bitterness or Injustice?
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Christians are quick to judge faithful spouses as “bitter” without pausing to consider another–more likely–origin of such strong anger: Injustice. To be angry at injustice is a good and godly response to have. It is not “bitterness” but … Continue reading “Bitterness or Injustice?”
Question Exchange: Did you try reconciling? Instead…
You know the commandments: ‘Do not commit adultery,’ ‘Do not murder,’ ‘Do not steal,’ ‘Do not bear false witness,’ ‘Do not defraud,’ ‘Honor your father and your mother.’” -Mark 10:19, NKJV QUESTION EXCHANGE Instead of probing the faithful spouse regarding their efforts to reconcile with a cheater, I suggest putting the onus upon the cheater. … Continue reading “Question Exchange: Did you try reconciling? Instead…”
“Unloved” Ticking Timebomb
Under three things the earth quakes, And under four, it cannot bear up:… Under an unloved woman when she gets a husband…. -Proverbs 30:21, 23a, NASB Marrying an “unloved” woman (or man) is perilous. Early in my first marriage, I remember thinking to myself that I would be able to convince my then wife that she was … Continue reading ““Unloved” Ticking Timebomb”
If half the energy put towards condemning divorcees…
Notice how some Christians feel completely free to share condemning opinions about divorce with faithful spouses but suddenly become silent regarding adultery with cheaters? It is so odd. The same people who wouldn’t DARE confront your cheater over her infidelity are the same crowd probing or condemning you for choosing divorce. They behave as if “Thou … Continue reading “If half the energy put towards condemning divorcees…”
Assumption is God Punishes Adultery
“That is why your daughters turn to prostitution, and your daughters-in-law commit adultery. But why should I punish them for their prostitution and adultery? For your men are doing the same thing, sinning with whores and shrine prostitutes.” -Hosea 4:13b-14b, NLT Notice how this passage from Hosea assumes punishment of the sexually immoral by God? … Continue reading “Assumption is God Punishes Adultery”