Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV If God is for us,who can be against us? -Romans 8:31b, NIV Trust God, Fear NOT “Man!” My anxiety often escalates when I start concerning myself with the opinions of “man” over what I know is God’s verdict … Continue reading “Trust God, Fear NOT “Man””
Taking Adultery Seriously!
“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT This verse says it all. It teaches us that God viewed adultery as a marriage ending sin. How so? God required the adulterous spouse to die in light of said … Continue reading “Taking Adultery Seriously!”
Returning a victim to an abuser who enjoys abusing them.
I know that after I leave, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. -Acts 20:29, NIV What amazes me about the usual advice given to faithful spouses is how the advice ignores the abuse dynamic inherently involved in every situation where adultery has occurred. What’s the “usual advice?” You … Continue reading “Returning a victim to an abuser who enjoys abusing them.”
Christ first or family first? The (ex) in-laws.
I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. -Matthew 10:35, NLT While the saying: “Blood is thicker than water” too often proves true when it comes to a cheater getting support from their (enabling) parents, it is not the way of true … Continue reading “Christ first or family first? The (ex) in-laws.”
No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.
Not one of you will enter the land I swore with uplifted hand to make your home, except Caleb son of Jephunneh and Joshua son of Nun. -Numbers 14:30, NIV While I hope my ex-wife finds repentance one day, I have moved on with my life. We will never be married again as I am … Continue reading “No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.”
No Rest for the Wicked
So God’s rest is there for people to enter, but those who first heard this good news failed to enter because they disobeyed God. -Hebrews 4:6, NLT Rest and peace are not in the offering for those who choose disobedience over godliness. And those who truly are not bothered by their wicked deeds are the … Continue reading “No Rest for the Wicked”
Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!
“’Be still, and know that I am God….’” – Psalm 46:10b, NIV When I was in the shock stage, I often found myself drawing a warm bath with lavender bath salts to ease my stress. I would play worship music to encourage my soul as I soaked in the tub before or after I … Continue reading “Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!”
Careful in Sharing
Not everyone deserves to hear your story. It is a privilege to be allowed entry into such an intimate and tender place. One of the hardest lessons I am still learning is to hold what I know closer to my chest. In other words, I tend to the “over share” spectrum of sharing. I am … Continue reading “Careful in Sharing”
Memories Remain
*DM on August 19, 2006. Today is a sad day for me. It was a day of celebration eleven years ago. Today was my first wedding day. I am amazed that even eleven years–and all the awfulness involved–does not obliterate the memories of that day. Our memories are fascinating things. I can still recall moments … Continue reading “Memories Remain”
“She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer
“She cheated. I’m not surprised. He should have paid her more attention.” -Outside Observer “He cheated on her. I’m not surprised. She really let herself go.” – Outside Observer These sort of observations are examples of victim blaming. JUST DON’T!!! Such Outside Observers are trading on the false notion that circumstances cause cheating as opposed … Continue reading ““She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer”