So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”
-John 8:7, KJV (emphasis and quotation marks added)
Ever notice how Christians quoting these words from Jesus have no problem “casting stones” at faithful spouses? Pointing out their alleged spousal failures.
The double-standard of avoiding talking about the cheater’s sins and failures while going into lengthy explorations of the faithful spouse’s “contributions” to the marriage’s demise happens all too often in Christian circles. It is absolutely insane!
We won’t “stone” her for sleeping with bar trash…
…but your failure to bring home a six-figure salary is evidence that you are not a good, godly husband and provider.
We won’t “stone” him for banging his coworker…
…but your failure to wear sexy lingerie and give him daily blow jobs means you brought his cheating on you.
We won’t “stone” her for abandoning you and the kids for her boss…
…but your failure to pay better attention to her emotionally while working long hours providing for your family is what we really need to consider.
Just because God extends mercy to people does not mean God does not condemn the sin as utterly wrong!
Another forgotten portion in the story of the woman caught in adultery is how Jesus charges her to “‘go, and sin no more'” (John 8:11b, KJV).
The whole idea of not sinning anymore means the judgment that she actually sinned–i.e. committed adultery–had already been passed as it was assumed! Reporting historical, spiritual facts–e.g. the adultery happened–is not the same thing as condemning the person.
And even in the case of extending mercy to an adulteress, Jesus still demands that she cease from her cheating ways.