When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – 1 Corinthians 13:11, KJV
This evening I was just talking with Mrs. DM about a scenario in my past marriage shaking my head at my naivete. I cannot believe I accepted certain things as okay. I was naive. It is a true sign of growth in wisdom and maturity that I see things differently today.
To be fair to my younger self, I did not exactly have good guides to warn me of the impending disaster in front of me. The counselors my first wife and I went to were essentially blind to the serious nature of what was transpiring. Too many supported the delusion that inappropriate relationship(s) were cries for help as opposed to what God calls them:
Hindsight is 20/20.
Looking back at those times, I can see how entwined I was and unwilling to take infidelity seriously when it was desperately needed. Not that I judge my younger myself–I was doing the best I could with what I had–but I realize looking back how important it is to take adultery/infidelity seriously.
Failing to do so helped no one.
I encourage all you find themselves in the midst of dealing with infidelity discovery not to take it lightly! Do not treat it as a symptom. It is evil (Deut. 22:22), and it is sin.
God takes adultery seriously (e.g. Exodus 20:14 and Hebrews 13:4). So ought we!